Believe it or not, scars can be very sexy. The thing is, although all bodies are different and unique, they tend to follow the same mold, which gets boring rather quickly. I look at scars no differently than say tattoos or piercings, which many men and women find extremely attractive. They add flavor!
I'm sure acquiring your scars was no picnic for you, which makes me sad, but, seriously view them as something that makes you unique and special. If you doubt what I am saying look at Top Chef host,
Padma Lakshmi. One of the hottest women in the world.
Since you are so nervous about this whole situation, make sure you sit him down and describe your scars to him before you do the big reveal. If this guy you are dating has a problem with the scars, he's a loser, dump him. Trust me, most guys will not have a problem with them, in fact, the right guy will think they are pretty damn hot.
Good luck to you.
Excellent advice. I hope this guy is not a schmuck and sees the beauty in her body as it is now, but if he's not, ditch him and find someone who appreciates someone who has clearly overcome a lot in her life!
Great advice. I think scars are pretty cool and wear the one over my left eye as a badge of honor. It's a reminder of a great story. None of the guys I've ever dated ever said anything negative about it.
Oh, and even though I'm all about guys, yes, I agree that Padma's hot! Not sure what happened to cause the scar and I'm sorry she had to go through it, but it's edgy. It makes her more interesting.
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Don't get distracted thinking too hard about what really turns us on: we're either a leg, ass or breast man. Any guy who tells you he doesn't have a preference is a dink. Yes...we do manage to find personality and other tender things important too but if you're not 'promoting' one of these three must haves then its this simple: who cares if you have scars.
I'm with someone now that has the largest scar down her leg. Huge. You could mistake it for a rip in her nylons if you didn't know better. Ok. So now know this: She's got the hottest legs. Long and lean. When I buy her an outfit (oh that works doesn't it) I always make sure those legs get front and center attention.
Hope this helps...
your a good man, nuff respect
Mystery Man is SO right.
Scars are SEXY, on men and women. Sometimes I actually wish I had more, but a self-inflicted scar is lame.
A good friend of mine has burn scars covering her body from her neck to her waist, including parts of her arms. As great as it is to say that scars are sexy (and some definitely are) burn scars can be pretty disfiguring so I can imagine the real vulnerability there is in taking it all off in front of your partner.
Here's the thing, it shouldn't matter how you look with the right person. If this really is a great guy as you say, he won't care and should consider it an honor that you've revealed this aspect of yourself to him. I don't know how you got your scars, but for my friend, she has a pretty traumatic story and she doesn't share it with just anyone.
To get back to your real question of how to tell him--just do it. Just find some time when it's just the two of you, and tell him that it's something that you're kind of shy about but you want him to know before taking it all off. If he really is an awesome guy, then I hope he knows the next step would be to make sweet love after he kisses every inch of you--including your scars.
Couldn't agree more with MM here. When I was in high school one of my best friends had a circular scar, from a childhood dog attack, around her right eye and, personally, I thought it was tremendously striking and distinguished. Oh, she was a beauty, I was totally bowled over.
If the guys worth knowing he'll be fine about it, just talk to him. If he's not, it's a small matter, scars are hot and he's an idiot.