To be honest, this is a fractally bad idea: if you examine any part of it closely, you just see more reasons not to do it.
Let's break it out:
- This guy is your coworker, so if things go south, you'll have to see him every day and be professional about it.
- Also, your coworkers will gossip about it no matter how it goes: it's what people do.
- He has a girlfriend, who is probably not going to take kindly to your attempt to poach her man. And she knows where you work, so that's going to be messy.
- He's sexting behind the back of the woman he lives with, so we're not talking a winner here in any respect.
- And, most importantly, you seem to be worried that he'll turn you down, and if he does, it sounds like it's really going to hurt your feelings.
My advice? Stop sexting this guy. He may be hot, but he's a jerk. You can do better.
good comments, i like when you say he may be hot but he is a jerk:)
what goes around comes around!
Amen to that RP,
OP- He's not making you feel very special is he? I guess the responsibility lies with you.
As for your feeling "out of his league, but we do sext." Sexting is impersonal. You send dirty messages and he conjures up an image in his head of whatever or whomever strikes his fancy and he masturbates to it." Nothing more than that. The guy can be completely devoid of emotions for the girl hitting the send button/icon. You are providing erotica for him to masturbate to. This is not even remotely like a long distance cuddle or hug. Not that a guy cant have feeling for the girl he sexts with, but he would make his feelings known by perhaps asking the girl to hang out or go on a date. The texts might go something like, "Hey what ya up to, wanna hang out?" rather than" "Hey, what you up to, what you wearing?"
If he does it with you without even so much of a mention of his girlfriend, I can bet he will do it to you without so much as a mention of you. Do it with you, do it to you.
Think about it this way, maybe you are out of his league.
Being the dirty little secret is never a good feeling. Stop allowing yourself to be his dirty little secret. Aren't you worth more than that?
This guy sounds like a Douchebag--with a capital D. It would be my guess that you aren't his only "dirty little secret."