I think you should do whatever you need to do to feel better about yourself in that situation. If looking hot works, then yes, why not? I wouldn't overdo it, though. You don't want to show up at an attorney's office wearing something more suitable for a night out. That would be inappropriate and, yes, could look desperate. I think you would regret it the moment you walked into the room.
My only other caveat is that you consider your motives. If you have any hope at all that looking hot at the hearing will somehow win him back, you need to let go of that. Could it happen? Yes. Will it? No. He has made his choice and you have to live with it, unfortunately.
If you're just doing it to feel better, go for it. Walk in there looking like a million bucks with your chin held high--even if you have to fake it. I know you are hurting and I'm sorry. What you are feeling right now won't last forever. Hang in there.
Thanks for the question.
Yeah, what WA said. Sophisticated sexy is essential here. Don't even get NEAR the trashy or revealing or slutty area. Just keep it classy. Classy sexy.
Dress appropriately and get as much out of the divorce as you can!
Living well is the best revenge. Looking great doesn't hurt either.
Best of luck to you!
If make-up therapy is an option I suggest you look for a YouTube video made by Lisa Eldridge. She made a video make-up tutorial for meeting with an ex. She covers everything from just how made up to look to how to cover up the puffy eyes.
If your soon to be Ex husband has told you that he does not love you anymore and the both of you have ended up in divorce court, chances are there is a lot that has went on in this marriage to bring the both of you to this point and simply 'looking' beautiful and elegant is NOT going to be a quick fix to it.
Let me help you get your husband back....Listen very carefully...because you may find the work needed is too much effort and not worth it...but if you are willing to do the work, your husband will slowly be putty in your hands.
The first thing for you to do is develop a mindset that is optimistic. Know that although you are in divorce court now, there still may be a chance for you to win him back. If you feel hopeless now and helpless then stop reading now!
Secondly, Take some time...all the time you need to sit down somewhere and take a good hard look at your marriage...Be honest with yourself and discover what it was that happened within that marriage that brought it to this point. Don't blame him for everything and not see your own contribution to the demise of your marriage. Both played equal parts. Once you can be honest with yourself, and admit to your part, then it's time to do the inner work... WORK ON YOURSELF.... Make the changes! You know, the things he has been telling you about for years??? yea, those changes.
Take slow and methodical steps at trying to develop a mutually respectful communication with one another...It starts there... Don't pressure him, blame him, fuss, cuss, bring up the past, or anything like that... Talk to him about the new things you are doing to make yourself happy...Men are turned on with a woman who is doing things on her own and making herself happy without depending on them for their happiness... keep the conversations short and to the point at first..show him that you are not angry with him... Make sure during your conversations that you encourage him, speak highly of him, and give him compliments and be genuine about it...tell him the things you loved about him the most and what you really miss about him...leave him with good thoughts of you when you hang up the phone so that he wants to call you back.. Don't call him first the next time..wait, no matter how long it takes for him to call you...
Once you get the communication to a point whereas you both are feeling good about talking to one another without arguing, ask him to come over for dinner or go out for dinner... THEN YOU DRESS SEXY and look like the person he once fell in love with...and ACT THE SAME WAY... You see most of us loose our men to women who despite not being attractive supports them, encourages them, and makes them feel good. So act like 'the other woman' and make him feel good... When you do that, you will know by his responses that the both of you are on your way to developing a new relationship...whether it will be a long-term one that results in re-marriage, who knows?? but its worth a shot at this point....However, you must be willing to start doing some inner work within yourself first sweetheart and that will be the hard part because so many of us don't want to face the role we played in anything that did not succeed...
Good luck to you sweetie! I wish you much luck and success... remember, being smart and also being honest with yourself will give you positive results!
I am sorry to see that your marriage end. Your ex clearly say that he doesn't love you anymore so looking sexy will not make him love you again. Maybe it wasn't love that let him married you in the first place. Chances are he already have eyes on another sexy chick so using looks will not work now. Just take some time to get over him. Talk to a friend you can trust or a therapist just to release your hurt. If you have done all you could to save your marriage and it didn't work then let him go.
I havent even logged in when I read this, after reading your answer...I said "Damn, I have to sign in and comment...WHAT A DAMN GOOD ADVICE! Love you Wise Ass :)
yeah, this is really good advice, per usual. check your intentions before you walk out the door to save yourself any disappointment over poorly placed expectations. the world isnt melrose place. he's not going to come running back because some cleav came out during mediation. how bout thinking of it like this, always try to look beautiful and sexy no matter where you're going, you're single now, have fun with it.
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scared,That this might not be real, Then i decided to give it a try in
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