Why not have an interfaith wedding? It’s very common. I asked my friend Christine, who had a Jewish/Catholic ceremony, for advice. She writes,
The key was finding an awesome priest/rabbi duo. Ours even organized an interfaith pre-Cana –13 other Catholic/Jewish couples in the room, plus an already-married interfaith couple to share their story. Our dynamic duo have also created a joint ceremony for babies — a baptism and baby-naming — so we’ll hopefully be calling them again in the future!
Best part of the whole thing? When the FDNY Bagpipers played “Hava Negila”. (c:
Indeed, the bagpipers were awesome. A priest and a rabbi officiated (no, they didn’t go to a bar together afterwards), the bride and groom broke a glass under the Chupah, and we all danced the Hora. It was interesting, and quite moving, to see two faiths coming together in celebration of my friends’ love for each other.
If one interfaith ceremony is out of the question, how about having two different ceremonies? That way, everyone is happy. It would take a lot of planning, but think of the presents!
Your wedding should celebrate both faiths, and be a happy, joyous occasion for both families. Clearly his faith is important to him, as he
wants you to both convert and have a strict Mormon wedding, but he should take into account your beliefs if you plan on building a life together. What happens when you decide to have children? How will you raise them? Will he always be calling the shots?
This is the first step on your new path. As my pal Christine said of her wedding, “The fact that we were already deviating from the ‘script’ of what each of our families considered a ‘normal’ wedding allowed for a lot more personalization, as well as for a ceremony whose spirituality was more about love and about our common God than about any one set of religious dogma.”
We live in a great time where people of all religious backgrounds come together in the name of love, forging new and exciting religious hybrids. It won’t be easy, but if you love each other, it will all be worth it. (Plus, I assume he wants a happy wife, which means giving her the wedding of her dreams.)
And, hey, if nothing else, there’s always Vegas. I hear they have a chapel where Elvis officiates your ceremony.