Yeah, I think your first clue that it was going to be complicated was the fact that you're both married, you dumbass. I'm just going to let Kuni from UHF sum up my opinion of that particular situation.
Anyway, to answer your implied question, yes, this is going to end badly. This is going to end very badly. Here's the problem with "open" relationships: they're usually only agreed to because one partner wants the other on any terms, even if they can't deal with that person being with other people. I know of marriages that are genuinely open, but that's rare.
Even if that is the case, I doubt her son is going to be excited to discover his mom's been banging one of his Facebook friends. From the sound of things, I doubt your spouse will be excited either. Basically, if you're lucky, there will be a few tense, awkward conversations. If you're unlucky, you're going to get punched out at some point.
Really, what were you expecting?
ummm...gonna go out on a limb here and suggest that he was expecting you to normalize his behavior under the guise of "open marriage" so that he could feel better and less guilty about being part of the pair that is potentially going to destroy two families and shatter the hearts of their children. just a hunch, could be wrong, been known to happen.
He's not the one in an open relationship. The other woman is, which means his unknowing wife is being cheated on behind her back. He should be unbelievably ashamed.
I know he's not, but he used the other one's open relationship as an excuse for his own behavior. thats how it looked to me and I agree with you 100%! ashamed is a good start, yes.
I see what you're saying. Totally a coward's excuse!
I think Dan was a bit harsh here. I, too, don't see how open marriages work, but if you want to make one work go for it. Here are my 3 thoughts:
1. Doesn't sound like friend's husband knows about you specifically. He knows his wife is out there, but no names are given. If they've agreed to this, then the husband has to be prepared that any guy/girl his wife knows could be involved. He probably won't react rationally but he doesn't really have grounds if he asked/agreed not to know.
2. You are not in an open marriage? THAT is why this should end OR your marriage should end OR you talk about open marriage too (though ideally those talks come before the sex)
3. The kid thing is awkward. Stop interacting on fb. That's your only responsibility here; don't add to the weirdness or he'll wind up feeling like your friendship was some kind of creepy joke. I personally don't think you should end this just bcause of the kid's feelings. Parents should get to choose their sex lives, BUT if you and his parents are not ready to be honest with him, you're not ready to be his friend. Same goes for the husband really. No friendship works on that kind of imbalance. Either he knows or no friendship in my opinion.
I don't think Dan was harsh. What do u want him to tell the "dumbass"? - "oh i'm sorry things are so awkward for u .. being married and having to be with another woman frm an open relationship, must be really tough" I mean c'mon!!
I don't think Dan was harsh enough. This guy is a complete dumbass. To get involved with anyone when you are married is just abhorent. An "open marriage" is nothing more than a cheater's way to cheat without guilt. If you can't accept the sanctity of marriage then get a divorce; then sleep with whoever you want. Douche should have his ass kicked for putting his wife through this crap.
I think Dan was a bit harsh here. I, too, don't see how open marriages work, but if you want to make one work go for it. Here are my 3 thoughts:
1. Doesn't sound like friend's husband knows about you specifically. He knows his wife is out there, but no names are given. If they've agreed to this, then the husband has to be prepared that any guy/girl his wife knows could be involved. He probably won't react rationally but he doesn't really have grounds if he asked/agreed not to know.
2. You are not in an open marriage? THAT is why this should end OR your marriage should end OR you talk about open marriage too (though ideally those talks come before the sex)
3. The kid thing is awkward. Stop interacting on fb. That's your only responsibility here; don't add to the weirdness or he'll wind up feeling like your friendship was some kind of creepy joke. I personally don't think you should end this just bcause of the kid's feelings. Parents should get to choose their sex lives, BUT if you and his parents are not ready to be honest with him, you're not ready to be his friend. Same goes for the husband really. No friendship works on that kind of imbalance. Either he knows or no friendship in my opinion.
Either way, there's no way this will end any other way than badly.
Is this a real letter?
Come on now.., if it was..., this guy has to know what a major douche he is for friend’n the guy AND an innocent kid. Not to mention what he is doing to his own family. Sheez…
Doesn't surprise me.. People suck sometimes. That's life...
Elsewhere on the Internet, I write about idiocy on Facebook, and there was one I came across where a guy who was cheating on his girlfriend gave his mistress a facial, got it in her eye, had to take her to the hospital...and then posted the whole thing on Facebook, much to his girlfriend (and her friends) surprise and anger. Something about Facebook makes people into idiots.
good god. ya just can't fix stupid.
Haha, wow. It's scary to see how some people in the world really don't think before they act!
Your poor wife. You are disgusting.
Why not finish off that very apt quote... "Oh what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to DECEIVE."
Moron.
*pokes head in*
*sees brouha in progress*
*leaves. quickly.*
lmao good call. unleash a cheater on a roomful of women and see what happens lol
On this I do think that sometimes people give TMI on Facebook as they think it is safe. As far as the kid goes (we do not have the ages) he could be 10 he could be 30 get it! Now the women are enjoying themselves and presumably open hubby is too. Clueless is the only one who needs upgrading to willing participant as we do not know any of the participants it is not possible to know expected reactions.
Ending? Wtf? why end a good thing? Hmmmm