Wow. There are so many things wrong with this question that I could write an essay - hmm, next weeks blog, possibly. But, seeing as it is Christmas, and I need to intensively work on the goodwill to all part of the holiday, I'll try to stay polite like.
Losing weight is easy. (Watches comments section go up in flames)
I will assume you say you need a speciallist for some underlying medical condition, not because you have the willpower of a wilted lettuce leaf. The answer is still the same:
That is it. The full secret in four words. Burn more calories than you consume, and exercise ensures you lose fat instead of muscle.
Works for everyone - even people with medical issues. Look up whatever your problem is. If only there was some vast repository of knowlege you could freely access. Follow the diet advice given for your particular situation. If your problem is you have no will power - tough it out.
However - that's not your real problem, is it? Larger girls get boyfriends all the time - there are a lot of guys who prefer someone more, you know, woman shaped.
Reading your question, with all my vast experience of picking out important points from a 300 character question, I am going to highlight one thing.
You really don't like yourself much - do you. That shows to guys. It turns them off. If you want to lose weight, go right ahead. It is good for you, if nothing else. But it is no magic cure. Try learning to like yourself a bit more first.
Again, there is all sorts of hippy dippy advice out there on how to do this, most of it complete and utter prairie oysters.
List what you actually like about yourself - you'll find a couple of things if you think hard enough. You have some courage - that is one freebie I'll give you.
List what you don't like. This will probably go on for pages. Then do something about each and every item. It takes time - anything worthwhile does. But actually works.
I don't exaclty have the same problem. I mostly just don't think I'm good looking..at all. And that is always written on my face. But I love your idea about writing out what you don't like then tackling each "problem". Great advice, sir.
Most problems can be dealt with by talking it out. Even just letting the idea that there is a problem out for an airing can help. Writing a list is just another way of talking to yourself. It works.
Just remember - top of your list, write "Don't give up."
I have lost about 10 kg and am going to lose more [after the holiday season is over]. Losing weight just requires willpower. But trust me, it won't make you feel better about yourself. That's another matter altogether.
Yes, that is true. I go back and forth all the time from liking the way I look to hating my looks, and when I weigh more, I want to lose weight, but when I'm skinnier, I feel too boyish, like I don't have any curves. Confidence in yourself is a big plus. Confident people attract others.
Oy, it's one of my pet peeves when people say its a simple matter of calories in and calories out. It's actually not for all people. There are conditions and medications that cause the body to hold onto food (aka, thinks its in starvation mode) even if they actually are burning more than that. Insulin and other factors such as cortisol also play complicated roles. It is not always that simple and it really bugs me when people say that it is, because it only frustrates those who are having trouble. That said, there are a lot of people that the issue is willpower and it actually sounds like this girl is more of that type because she's given up. I think the other advice was good, I just really wish he hadn't started off with such an ignorant statement.
I know alot of people don't buy into counseling or medication, but it sounds like you maybe a little depressed and clinical depression is a medical problem that can lead to, among other things, da da da daaaa, obesity. Maybe you should stop looking to weight specialists and start looking at someone who can help you tackle the problem from the mind down. Its hard to feel good about yourself when you're depressed for any reason but it becomes a very vicious circle when you're depressed because you're fat so you eat because you're depressed thereby allowing yourself to remain fat and depressed. See a therapist or counselor, there are a lot of really good medications out there that can treat depression and help you lose weight in one fell swoop. Don't ever give up tho. Guys are ultimately more interested in who you are than what you look like. Be beautiful from the inside out and then the outside will start to reflect the same. And always smile, even when you're not happy because it will make people smile back and you will feel great about yourself when everyone is always smiling when you come around. :-)