Possibly. But realize that you're dealing with a man who is already cheating on somebody else by dealing with you. Are you sure that's somebody you'd want a relationship with?
I don't have the statistics on this, but I'd be willing to bet that a person who began a relationship with somebody as a result of infidelity is more likely than not to find themselves in a similar situation. Is it possible that he wants a relationship with you? Sure. But it's also possible that he manages to find new "girlfriends" before he breaks up with his old ones so that he's never lonely. And there's a good chance he may do the same thing to you.
Is it a foregone conclusion? Not at all. Maybe you are the right one for him. But proceeding with caution never was a bad thing. So maybe he does. Just be aware of what you're walking into.
I'd be willing to bet too. PJ is on the money.
Move on girlfriend, before this sitch comes back to bite you in the butt.
I think PJ is right here too. If he does it to someone else, he'll do it to you too. Do you really want to be his women and then worry when he's out of your sight whether he has a woman on the side. Please run.
GBFF has a good point.
BUT
I know lots of women who really REALLY want to believe the're the exception not the rule. And there are sometimes exceptions.
My question to the OP is this: IF this happened: He left his gf and was with you and things were great...would you be content with that? Would you be able to sit back and trust him, all-the-while knowing how you guy's relationship started? This is an honest question because, sweetpea, you could be the exception. And what if you are? What if this guy was awesome and honest and everything else...would you be able to let his infidelity go - truly? I wouldn't. I'd always be looking over my shoulder and whether he showed me he was honest or not, I'd always have a doubt in my mind when he was out of my sight for a few hours. I'd probably grill him a little more than a normal guy. I'd probably look for more validation than I would necessarily need in a 'normal' dating situation. I may not fully trust his (maybe perfectly honest) responses. I would drive MYSELF crazy because I wouldn't want to be like that stupid woman he was dating when he cheated with me. I may completely self-implode the relationship without even meaning to...without even knowing I was doing it.
So, while things seem really nice right now, I'm asking you to take a step back and think about - even in perfect circumstances - would you ever be able to truly and fully trust this guy, and leave his past in the past?
Good luck!
Hubris. It's the downfall of us lol.
*guys'
Grammar errors tick me off.
...and there goes another girl sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend, being all selfish and worrying about her future with him. Poor girlfriend of his when she finds out he's cheating. The girlfriend has feelings for him too you selfish, selfish, shameless woman.
OP- I think you are missing how selfish his cheating is for you as well as his girlfriend. He put both of you in a shitty position. I don't really feel sorry for you though because you are not his victim, just a girl who volunteered to be his dirty little secret. His girlfriend however, is a victim of you both, which is pretty crappy of you.
Remember though if he does it with you he will do it to you. The screwing over you'll get for the screwing you got. Poetic justice.
Why did he have to ask that? The better thing for him to do would have been to come to you and say I ve left my girlfriend becuase I wan tot be with you, will you be with me? rather than asking that and clearly labeling you as a backup plan
Agreed. Sorry to say but he doesn't care about anyone but himself. You'll find that out if you date him long enough. Been there, done that, no matter what you think now, its not worth your time. Trust me, I made a mistake and I'm still kicking myself for that one. :-)