Questions like these are always interesting to me, not because they're insulting my looks (believe me, I've been called worse on this site: the term "shaved Wookie" has come up), but because they tell me how people think dating works.
People who haven't dated very much, or who tend to date on a, shall we say, shallower basis, believe that dating is like sports: there are leagues or rankings, and you'll never see a featherweight take on a heavyweight in the dating ring.
But it doesn't work that way. The single biggest piece of advice I've given lovelorn guys is this: ask her questions. Don't talk about yourself unless she asks. If you really want to seal the deal, ask her about herself. Why? It caters to our ego in a way that complimenting somebody's looks never could.
There is no human being that is 100% attractive to every single human being. But, frankly, enough of us are attractive to enough of us that if we apply ourselves, we do all right. Even the shaved Wookies.
WHAT A BITCH! You're fine looking, and I would have been proud to have someone like you as my BF. Until you cheated on me.
People are so mean.
My bf is 20 yrs older than me, grey, balding, and has a little bit of a beer gut. We've been together 10 months and I was starting to question if I was really still attracted to him. Than, last night, we were sitting on the couch watching tv and I looked over at him and the flame inside me shinned brighter.
Its personality. Thats what makes a person attractive. If you dont understand that, I feel bad for your, because your relationships will be as shallow as you are.
Hahahaha... WOW!!!! What a biotch!! Glad you have thick skin, RP!! Nobody should have to be subjected to such rudeness!
Wow! What a terribly rude comment/question. Attractiveness is so much more than just the physical. It's the total package. Everyone has flaws...
RP, you're one fine man. :)
i think you're hot, RP. i think all the guyspeakers are. even MM's fake picture is hot. cuz you're all awesome and good examples of real men that know how women deserve to be treated, and instruct accordingly. and real women think that's hot, just like your answer says. as far as the asker is concerned, i always say, the insults people make about others are usually the things they hate about themselves the most, so good on you.
Hmmm, I'm not so sure if that is ALWAYS true. There's been some people who hated me and they were everything I was not; attractive, intelligent, well-mannered, cultured, highborn, etc.
well, i don't really know what to say to that other than i'm sure they had their reason. and i think you missed my point. and i refuse to get into an argument with you about this or anything else, so please stop trying to pick them with me. thanks.
Shiet, I wish I looked tenth as good as RP! :-/
That the question-asker even THOUGHT this proves her stupidity, but the fact that she actually took the time to write it out and send it to you? Proves how ugly of a person she really is. As simple as that.
You know Reform Player, youre not really UGLY I think, its just that that picture is UGLY. Hope that makes since. Just get a new pic and you is alright.
Ha. You should see him in action.
UGLY= Unbelievably Good Looking and Young
This "question" doesn't even make any sense. With this method of thinking, people who are not deemed as "attractive" aren't worthy of dating someone who is maybe more attractive that them.
Attractiveness and beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and who can a person like this be able to judge others! For ex, I like tall, very skinny pasty white guys. Now... I doubt Brad Pitt would have had as much success if he looked like that, because a lot of people don't like what I like... but Brad doesn't do it for me... others do. And thank god, because if we all liked the same things, then fuck... why don't we clone each other?
Everyone is worthy of love and attention, and opinions like this just continue to promulgate rude and discriminatory comments.
All I want to do is tell you to crawl into a hole and go away. But to be honest, you just need to grow up and reflect upon your own stupidity.
I hope the asker realizes the errors of her ways soon....judgements like this will make her dating and relationships more difficult than they already are naturally.
It's funny that she is almost "insulted" by seeing you, Dan, as a RP, expecting otherwise? Perhaps she thinks that RP's are simply hot model-types that blow her off and insult her ego, thus the bad taste in her mouth...so to speak.
This is rarely the case. What a "reformed player" is, is someone who no longer, but DID used his (or her) prowess to manipulate or take advantage of others in dating, for an ulterior motive, ie, to have sex, get money or other material things, for status, or as a game.
Looks are irrelevant to this point.
Dan, I recall a similar question way back that you also answered with class and dignity. Glad you're here...and can keep your wits about you, when some of the girls cannot.
For players, it's mostly about confidence and how you carry yourself. Charm. Smarts. Looks may open doors but if you don't have anything to back it up with - there's not enough there to be intriguing.
Wow. I don't even need to see a picture of the asker to know they are hideous where it matters, on the inside. Who takes time out of their day to insult someone they don't know? Time to grow up dear.
An assistant to a plastic surgeon I was once consulting told me "beauty is skin deep, but in your case, 'X', your ugliness runs to the very core of your being."
She was smart enough to say that only after the doctor said he couldn't do anything for me and therefore I would not be giving any business.
Mr. X. You really seem to be quite self critical. I am sorry that this plastic surgeon's assistant reinforced that for you. I hope you can start looking inward and finding things you like about yourself. I believe everyone has things they can appreciate and respect about themselves if they can look past the things they dislike. It's more important to place emphasis on your positive qualities than the things you perceive negatively about yourself. I hope you can find some self respect. Everyone deserves that.
Obvious troll is obvious.
Mean people suck!
mean people suck dick!
Whether or not your hot is irrelevant. I have a cousin who is about 5'6, looks kinda like a drug addict when you first glance at him, yet he still gets the hottest and sweetest women out there. Why? Because he charms them and plays them and they keep comming back for more. Did I also mention he's broke and lives kind of the bum life? He's got these women men would dream about paying his way through life! Yet at first glance you would see nothing at all spectacular, just good old charming their pants off going on.
I'm sorry, but when people start a sentence with the phrase "I'm sorry, but" they're usually just using it as an excuse to be as rude as possible without feeling guilty about hurting the other person. And then if the other person feels hurts than it's not their fault, because they already said sorry.
If you don't like how another person looks, fine, all the more power to you. But to tell them about it with the intent purpose of making them feel bad, that is rude. Do you kiss your mother with the mouth that thinks it's okay to talk to people like that?
RP, you are amazing. I would have been so pissed off if someone said that to me, but you handled it well. I am pissed off actually. Ugh. Leaves a bad taste in my mouth. But it's probably someone still in high school who thinks attractiveness is completely physical. Some of the most dangerous guys out there are the ones who listen to you and pander to your ego. The ones who make you feel good about yourself instead of saying your not good enough for them. You are now #3 on my list of heroes. (Sorry, 1 and 2 were taken already.)
I'm sorry, but when people start a sentence with the phrase "I'm sorry, but" they're usually just using it as an excuse to be as rude as possible without feeling guilty about hurting the other person. And then if the other person feels hurts than it's not their fault, because they already said sorry.
If you don't like how another person looks, fine, all the more power to you. But to tell them about it with the intent purpose of making them feel bad, that is rude. Do you kiss your mother with the mouth that thinks it's okay to talk to people like that?
RP, you are amazing. I would have been so pissed off if someone said that to me, but you handled it well. I am pissed off actually. Ugh. Leaves a bad taste in my mouth. But it's probably someone still in high school who thinks attractiveness is completely physical. Some of the most dangerous guys out there are the ones who listen to you and pander to your ego. The ones who make you feel good about yourself instead of saying your not good enough for them. You are now #3 on my list of heroes. (Sorry, 1 and 2 were taken already.)
I have this friend. He is horrible looking. Huge guy, fat, balding in a not great way, depressed, etc. And he always gets these women that look like supermodels. I've never really understood it. We each have our own idea of beauty, though. I'll see some girl showing off her new man and think, "damn, does he bark?" but she thinks he's hot. I had this ex that I thought was the hottest thing outside the kitchen. Now I look back and wonder what I was thinking.
Wait a minute, the OP has a bit of a point. Not that RP is not hot but the fact that unnattractive people have a hard time BEING players. Scientifically, attractive people are more likely to hook up with other attractive people and have a wider range of dating possibilities. I.E. I'm a ten, you're a five. I have a higher chance to hook up with another ten than you do (Or a nine, or an eight, or a seven etc...)
Also, OP, geeze...rude much??
......omg lmao.... that person has no idea what the game is about. if its a girl,bet u shell get sprung off a real player no matter he looks like...if its a dude, u aint got no game at all.. and u mite be a cool person but doesnt sound like it cuz the way your worded your comment was really shitty and i sensed some hostility in it so if all u got is looks when ur true i mean true colors come out people must run the other way unless their shallow like you..... its called SWAG..f.y.i. its harder to be pretty....