Guyspeak Newsletter Signup

Mystery Man

 
Next Answer »
userpic
userpic

I believe my wife has an unrealistic view of the male sex drive. She is convinced that "normal" men chase their women around the house with their tongues hanging out 24/7. What are some resources I could use to show her that 2-4 times a week is really normal and twice a day is excessive for most?

The old story of mismatched sex drives and expectations, eh? There are guys who are comfortable with sex 2 to 4 times per day. We even have a name for them.

Addicts.

There was an extensive study of sexual frequency carried out in the UK, which was reported on in The Times which found that a surprising 18% of adults do not have sex at all! Shocking considering that sex is the one thing pretty much every guy lies about.

As for frequency, well, everyone is different, though the study suggests that once a month to once a year is far more common than once a day to once a week. So 2 to 4 times a week is already putting you ahead of a good 90% of the population.

One factor she may not be considering is what is informally known as the three year rule, a rule of thumb for couples in a relationship. Sexual frequency roughly halves for every three years the couple is together. It is a little bit sad when you start wistfully looking back at how it used to be, but it is also normal.

Hope this has been of some small service.

Talk 5
Love it? Hate it? 6
Got A Question? Ask Your Own. »

5 Comments

user-pic

Real life happens to us all. Careers. Mortgage. Kids definitely change your life. It's not all about you anymore. We have to make 'special just us' time - our reason for being... Don't ever let it get to once a year!

chrissie1101

i'm confused, are we supposed to feel for the guy gettin it 2-4 weekly? interesting stat on the 3 year rule though, great research.

Tariana

Over the past few weeks with several questions here on GuySpeak, I am thinking that maybe, contrary to popular belief, women have more sexual drive than men? Maybe men are better at "thinking" and "fantasizing" but when it comes to actual performance, it's the women who can really deliver. Ahehehe. Just a thought.

Mystery Man

Another rule every guy knows:

A woman is never so keen as when she has just come.

It can be hard to keep up. (pun intended)

user-pic

Personally I think age, diet, attraction, chemistry...wow...the list goes on and on...make up libido and chemistry! Two months ago I would have even argued the whole power, let alone existence of chemistry...However, I am in my early 40's and just started dating an older man (he's just shy of 50) and frankly, after being with younger guys since I was 25.. let me just say, wow...WOW!! Not a day goes by that he doesn't "pleasantly" surprise me both in and out of the bedroom! The moral to my story...stereotypes are just that..stereotypes and are usually more often than not derived out of a one-sided, biased situation...not actual research!

Leave a comment

(You may use HTML tags for style)

Get GuySpeak in your inbox.

Choose the newsletters you'd like to receive:

Trending Topics

  1. 95 entries are tagged with
  2. 59 entries are tagged with
  3. 70 entries are tagged with
  4. 61 entries are tagged with
  5. 57 entries are tagged with
  6. 214 entries are tagged with
  7. 91 entries are tagged with
  8. 864 entries are tagged with
  9. 60 entries are tagged with
  10. 64 entries are tagged with
  11. 57 entries are tagged with
  12. 93 entries are tagged with
  13. 89 entries are tagged with
  14. 61 entries are tagged with
  15. 53 entries are tagged with
  16. 150 entries are tagged with
  17. 183 entries are tagged with
  18. 63 entries are tagged with
  19. 55 entries are tagged with
  20. 79 entries are tagged with
  21. 60 entries are tagged with
  22. 237 entries are tagged with
  23. 499 entries are tagged with
  24. 95 entries are tagged with
  25. 58 entries are tagged with