Probably a little of both. Two dates warrants an email break up at the very least. Honestly, I'd rather someone just blow me off entirely than send a text message. I can't imagine a more impersonal way to be dumped. Maybe carrier pigeon. (Though that does require the dump-er to actually catch a pigeon and attach a note to its leg, which I'd say ranks a bit higher on the effort scale than tapping out "Hey, we shud C othr peeps" on your phone.)
His lack of a follow-up call or text (he didn't even take the time to ask why or even type out "ok") says he's also ready to move on. Why do you care if he's upset? If you cared, you should have put more effort into the break-up. Sounds like you may still have feelings for him.
If you're worried about whether a text message break-up will annoy a guy, don't do it. Email, call, write him on Facebook, whatever. You're not required to call things off face-to-face with someone after two dates. (Though after four or five dates, you're kind of a jerk if you don't do it in person or at least on the phone.) That said, if you're worried about a guy's feelings, keep in mind that a text message shows a serious lack of interest and respect on your part. It's also very easy to misinterpret a text message. (For instance, you aren't sure if he's writing "K" with a shrug or a scowl.) A nicely worded email is always appreciated, and harder to take the wrong way.
Wait, I thought of a break-up method worse than a text: Twitter. Do not break-up with someone over Twitter. I can't think of anything worse than all your followers retweeting your break-up message to some poor guy.
His lack of a follow-up call or text (he didn't even take the time to ask why or even type out "ok") says he's also ready to move on. Why do you care if he's upset? If you cared, you should have put more effort into the break-up. Sounds like you may still have feelings for him.
If you're worried about whether a text message break-up will annoy a guy, don't do it. Email, call, write him on Facebook, whatever. You're not required to call things off face-to-face with someone after two dates. (Though after four or five dates, you're kind of a jerk if you don't do it in person or at least on the phone.) That said, if you're worried about a guy's feelings, keep in mind that a text message shows a serious lack of interest and respect on your part. It's also very easy to misinterpret a text message. (For instance, you aren't sure if he's writing "K" with a shrug or a scowl.) A nicely worded email is always appreciated, and harder to take the wrong way.
Wait, I thought of a break-up method worse than a text: Twitter. Do not break-up with someone over Twitter. I can't think of anything worse than all your followers retweeting your break-up message to some poor guy.
Or via Facebook....
I don't know if breaking up was really necessary-- I mean you only went on two dates. My most recent ex broke up with me through text message after a year of being together-- talk about a slap to the face.
If you weren't interested then you should be honest about it-- call them up and tell them that way. Think of it this way... how would you feel if someone did the same to you?
"Breakup"? After 2 dates, not so sure it requires a "break up".
Then again, I was never very good at dating. I was talking with this guy from Match.com for a couple of weeks before going out on an actual date with him. He turned out to be lame. So... the next time he texted me, I just didn't answer. (Thankfully he didn't text again. But man did I feel cold as ice. Thank goodness I'm off the market, because I'm clearly a horrible person.)
I got broken up with over Facebook chat. He never had the decency to see me face-to-face to talk about everything that wasn't working.
Actually, I think if you've only been on two dates, then you obviously aren't together, so it's not "breaking up". It's just stopping dating. Lol, I think the worst is the post-it, like Berger to Carrie in SATC. Actually, finding out on facebook would be worse. I wouldnt break up via writing (unless I thought they were going to physically harm me- then I would) because I just feel like I would want to gauge their reaction and to give feedback if they asked for why. I think if you break up with someone then you are obligated to give a reason, IMO.
i dont think there is much breaking up to do. If after a couple of dates one party isnt interested but the other is, the one that isnt interested just communicates it to the other when speaking on the phone. Just say 'I am not interested anymore...'
The worst break-up I ever heard of was when one of my friends got dumped via facebook. The guy changed his status to single, and the next thing she knows, she's getting all these notifications asking if she's okay. THAT'S lame.
The real question is why is it bugging you? Typical...all girls in this situation want a call back from the guy begging you to go on another date and telling you how wonderful you are. He has options just like every other guy out there.
Hi umm I moved to a different county and I am going out with this guy and we've been going out for two to three years and I moved I might be staying here and not oming back how do I break up with him over the phone
Hi umm I moved to a different county and I am going out with this guy and we've been going out for two to three years and I moved I might be staying here and not oming back how do I break up with him over the phone