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I broke up with my boyfriend for a guy whom I've known for a long time and am starting to fall for. Everything is going amazing, but long story short, he has a TINY penis. As in penetration not physically possible tiny. He feels bad so I try not to make it a big deal, but what is a girl to do??!

I hate to say it, but you need to own up as to whether or not this is a dealbreaker. I get why you don't want it to be, but if realistically speaking you're unhappy sexually, that is inevitably going to bleed into other aspects of the relationship.

If it's not, or if you want to try and make it work first, a few things to try:

  • Different positions. If you generally do it missionary, try doggy or cowgirl. It offers more penetration.
  • Oral and hands. I'm assuming he doesn't have tiny fingers. If he can make up the difference with his mouth and hands, it won't be as much of a problem.
  • Toys. He may not want to use a stand-in, but it certainly can't hurt.

Good luck!

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How many times have you had sex? He might be nervous.... which might play into it. Just a thought.

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Nervousness does not cause you to lose inches while erect.

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Get a black dildo. it'll work wonders girl.

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Black...?

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Break up with him. Seriously. This is very important to you, if you persist in the relationship its going to snowball. That doesn't make you neither shallow or bad. There's only going to be two outcomes; a breakup now that's a little hurtful or a breakup down the road that's going to be very ugly and hurtful. Better to get it over with now and find a man whose size is satisfactory for you. If he is that amazing, he will be fine.

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Whatever you decide just know this.
I have been married for 3 months. My husband has a job working on pipelines underground. When he firs started, he came home completely worn out and capable of sitting or laying with ice on his back. We didn't have sex for a week, and I understood why. But after that we started having sex more often. Sex is such an important thing in marriage, even emotionally, it makes the women feel beautiful and wanted. When he's not able to promote these feelings, it makes the women feel very unwanted and almost hurt. Sex isn't just about getting an orgasm and feeling good afterward, it brings the couple closer together.
Also, remember that everyone is different so don't set your standards and needs based on your friends or what you see and hear in other places.
If he can provide what it takes for you to feel these things, keep it going. You need to do what you want, don't settle because you feel bad for someone but at the same time, don't end something that could work for you.

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That is a very touching post, really. But, that doesn't help her with her BF's size. I would have to imagine at the very least, your husband is normal-sized. Her difficulty was not with him obtaining an erection, rather, the size of the erection obtained. She's saying that he is so small, that even fully aroused and passionate, they cannot make love in the conventional sense.

This is obviously a sore point for her. And it is her right for it to be. If she continues with him, its going to get worse. Sure, she'll keep it in, smile weakly, until one day he's blindsided. Much better they end the relationship now, because it's not going to last, and will be much more painful later when it does end.

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