Well, what it probably means is that you put into his head that a certain life changing situation was about to happen and waited LONG enough for him to get it in his mind that he was going to become a parent and a father. And instead of it scaring him, he got used to the idea and realized that it wasn't a bad thing.
Maybe he thinks he's more ready for parenthood than you or he thought originally. What it also means is that he thinks enough of you to not freak about being a parent with. He realized that maybe you'd be a good parent too and that at least it wasn't some random floozy that he knocked up.
Point is, while he probably isn't ready for children, he's also not afraid of the prospect of having children and in some odd way, got a little bit excited about having a child. That's why he was disappointed. You got his mind thinking into "responsible for another little life" mode and when he found out it was for naught, the good thoughts he had evaporated.
I'm sure he's happier that you aren't, but really, that is a jacked up prank to pull. Stop it.
That is an extremely childish prank for a 22 year old woman to pull. You should be seriously ashamed.
She admits it was a bad idea and now she knows exactly how bad of an idea it was. However, it probably didn't do much permanent harm and it's not like she got herself pregnant with his baby on purpose to trap him....there are worse things than what she did.
Don't judge so harshly, everyone's done things they aren't proud of in life and it seems like she learned from her mistake. "seriously ashamed" is a bit harsh, people come here for help and support, not to be judged.
Chill out.
Not sure how seriously guyspeak takes reporting comments, but me reporting this one was an accident. Damn touchscreen phone sensitivity!
I don't agree with you, but I would never report you over that :) My take on this is that we all make dumb decisions. She regrets it and has probably apologized. End of story. I hope her bf forgives her.
Gee, I don't know, maybe he was "disappointed" to find out that his girlfriend was willing to f*ck with his emotions like that.
If I was the guy, I'll be bolting right out the door. What is she? A psycho who toys around the idea of getting pregnant, leads someone else who loves her to believe that she is and then say "Oh, I'm sorry. It was just a joke."
Good luck. I hope he stays longer in your relationship.
oh come on now be real. you didn't feel bad for a SECOND. because you got exactly what you wanted, a reaction. to an important question. that any real woman would just say, "honey, don't freak, just curious, what if we skipped BC tonight." what you did was a very very STUPID STUPID thing to do. and manipulative. and it is people like you that make real women work that much harder to prove to men that we arent all game playing psycho chicks. and OFFENSIVE. to the millions upon millions of women that would do anything, give anything, say anything, PAY anything to be able to make that call, but they never will. or to the millions wishing they had someone to make that call to, but even if they did they are too f*&$ING EXHAUSTED from their three jobs that are the sole source of income for the kid they are raising alone, so they dont have time for BULLSHIT IDLE PRANKS. who cares what his reaction meant, you dont deserve it. he doesnt want kids. be a big girl and ACCEPT THAT.
Oh Chrissie. I love you for being you. *hugs* I sometimes wish I could be as angry and as vocal as this. Sometimes we need to be. I'm getting there though. lol
aw thanks Faye, you are so sweet, love you for THAT. just dont lose any of that sweet, cuz the world sure cant get too much of that.
Exactly. One of my closest friends did the exact same thing with her BF, but at least she never said she felt bad. She was just like "I wanna see how he reacts". Didn't understand it then, sure as hell don't understand it now. I think it'd be cool if God pulled a prank like this, "Oh look, you're late. Oh no no, silly me, just a false alarm!"
I wrote the question. I dont want kids either. I wasnt manipulating him. Just was thinking about Father's Day and thought it would be funny and it was when I told him loosen up lady. We play pranks all the time. I simply wasnt expecting his reaction knowing full well we BOTH dont want kids at this time.
fake pregnancy scares are juvenile and fake pregnancy scares for Father's Day are beneath juvenile. i wrote my comment for you and for any juvenile fool that comes here and thinks "doh de doh, that sounds like a great idea, let's see what happens with that." i stand by it.
When you say this it makes me question how sorry you really feel. If you could really plan this out as a Father's Day prank then you probably thought of the consequence. I could never scare a boyfriend like that.
It was a prank and I know you did not mean anything by it but what if he pranked you with "he got another girl pregnant" and let you think that for a few days?
ALLELUIA!
cheating on her and getting some other chic pregnant vs guess what honey! seem like a big jump in pranks...
Being a man who got the call (for real) at a very young age (18...well, nearly 19 but that really doesn't matter) I gotta say this: NOT COOL!
I'd swear like Chrissie, but I'll be cool on this one. It is not cool at all to do this to your boyfriend. As GBFF says, he may have realized he is okay with starting a family and you took that from him. I went through that myself, I was terrified initially but the idea sunk in and I knew I would be okay and would do whatever I could for my child and my girlfriend (Who I married then got divorced from due to her cheating on me). I now have a beautiful daughter who is nearly 9 years old.
If my girlfriend at the time had terrified me, then once I was in a place of happiness and acceptance, told me that it was a goof I would have screamed at her. I understand that with couples playing pranks and such can be a good time, I have definitely done it, but those are supposed to be small things not jokes about a huge life changing event.
I've replaced shampoo with temporary hair dye, my fiance is super blonde, like...almost bleached without actually bleaching and her hair was black for a couple days (I made sure to get the stuff that didn't go green, no worries I am not that big of an ass) And she got me back by offering to trim my hair a few months later and she just buzzed my head. Those are innocent, not permanent, not emotionally trying pranks. Try that next time or you're going to have a hell of a difficult time getting him to ever trust you again. I sure wouldn't.
People loosen up, I posted the question.
I wouldnt have done this too someone that wasn't a jokester themselves. I for one, dont want kids. I didnt do this to "see what he would say". I told him it was a joke as soon as he called back (10 mins).
I had previously told his best friend (who told me it would be funny) so that if he thought I was trying to manipulate him then hed know it was purely fooling around. It seemed really funny before hand, but once I sent it I honestly felt differently. Mainly because it went from an errant thought to actually doing it which was a big difference.
We are very playful and joke and play pranks often. I didnt drag it out, as soon as he called I confessed. Weve both been laughing about it ever since, im pretty sure he'll get me back soon. And no he doesnt think im crazy for doing it because he knows how much I don't currently want children. I dont like manipulation either and he knows that also. I have no reason to manipulate him. An extreme joke yes, Manipulation no.
I was just surprised by his reaction and wanted to get a second opinion because his reaction was completely different than what I was expecting and I wasn't prepared for his dissapointment. If he doesn't want kids right now thats MORE than fine by me.
Panama, thank you for the answer to my question. I appreciated it.
As someone who's ever made a mistake before I just feel obligated to come in on your side given the intense reaction you got here. I understand people can only comment on the info given in the question but geez. You and your bf seem to get eachother and seem to be forgiving, loving people. Glad you realized this was a less than perfect prank and backed out when you did. You shouldn't have the responsibility of representing all women everywhere within youre private relationship.
As someone who's ever made a mistake before I just feel obligated to come in on your side given the intense reaction you got here. I understand people can only comment on the info given in the question but geez. You and your bf seem to get eachother and seem to be forgiving, loving people. Glad you realized this was a less than perfect prank and backed out when you did. You shouldn't have the responsibility of representing all women everywhere within youre private relationship.
You're lucky he didn't dump you on the spot.
How would you feel if he pretended he was pregnant????
Hmm???
Hmmm!!!
You'd sure be disappointed then! (at least at the prospect of not bearing the kid yourself, stretchmarks, morning sickness, and crying uncontrollably at kitten commercials).
I'd be a little bit shocked that I never noticed my boyfriend had a vagina, personally.
Well, you guys have one heck of a relationship there. Not one I'd want to be in, but hey, if you enjoy constantly pranking each other like middle-schoolers, more power to ya, I guess.
how much longer are they going to not moderate the comments. Very annoying
That is pretty bad. Why dont you just fess up and hope he forgives you?