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I don't like one of my BF's friends bc he's a cocky jerk who thinks he's way smarter than he is. Part of it is jealousy, definitely; he's doing what I want to do: establishing his own promotional business. He thinks he's so awesome for doing it, but he's been given every advantage (family $$ and no need to work)! Help?

So you don't like him because he is doing, effortlessly, what you want to do? Exactly how green are your eyes right now?

Where is it written by any wise man, philosopher, religious leader or god incarnate that life is fair? It isn't. It never will be. Accept that now.

Use your dislike of him as a spur to reach your own goals, instead of sitting around complaining that he has all the advantages, and disliking him for something that is no more his making than his height. I'll tell you one thing though. If he feels no need to work, he will have no way to succeed.

Gonna leave you with a quote:

There's no meaning to a flower unless it blooms.

So blooming well get on with your life!

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So what if he was given money from his family - he's lucky he has that. Who are you to say he only made it because of his families money-That's so bitter! - you can't just start a business on money alone. Don't just sit their on your laurels bemoaning everyone who has an advantage over you - making excuses such as "well they only have this because their family has money" - do you think that is going to get you anywhere? Tearing someone down because you think that they think they're better than you? WHO CARES. Meanwhile that person is getting on with their life doing their own thing - probably not giving you a second thought and look at you! Get a life and ditch that crabbit attitude. Where his money came from and what he does with it is none of your business. Jealousy is an awful trait - and if you can't handle people doing better than you, having good fortune, or having more money than you - then maybe you should mix with a different sort.

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You are responsible for your own lot in life. You are the only one who can go after your dreams, so do it. Forget him…., you got this!

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Time will tell. We knew a guy like that when I was in school, thought he was better than everyone because he was born to a very successful and rich businessman, and like your BF's friend, he didn't feel he had to really apply himself either, and also felt that there was nothing he needed to learn from anyone. He had a younger brother was the polar opposite, humble, down to earth, felt he had to learn from everyone, even the school's custodian.

A couple years back, I hooked up with the younger brother on Facebook. He's done even better than their father, which is miraculous considering his home country is on the brink of collapse. The older brother; he squandered all his great advantages and is now living in destitute poverty and cannot even afford a computer.

You're acting more like your BF's friend than you realize. Arrogance will be your downfall as much as his. My view is I never worry about what others have, my own problems are enough.

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GIRRRRL, sounds like you kind of like this jerk. Is it a crush, because why are you on a relationship site, ASKING a question about your BF's friend. HA, he is pulling your string and I think somewhere deep down (maybe not too deep) you want this jerk .

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