Do women shave their arms? I'm not sure I've ever heard of that. Maybe they do and I'm out of the loop. To me it sounds ridiculous.
Everybody has body hair--it's normal. Society already pressures you to shave or wax your legs, armpits, facial hair and pubes. Now we're adding arm hair to the list? Where does it end? Who are all these guys who decided that hair is a bad thing?
I don't know if arm hair turns off guys or not. I never notice it, but then, I'm not in my 20s or a typical guy. I say do what makes you feel comfortable. If it bugs you, wax it; if you're only worried about what a guy might think, leave it. If a guy is attracted to you, I don't think a bit of arm hair will turn him off.
Other ladies reading this--do you shave or wax your arm hair? Is this a common practice?
Thanks for the question, Mia.
Hahaha, oh dear, and I thought I could remain anonymous. There's no escaping! But thanks for the answer Cary!
(And, a majority of my friends shave their arms. I find it to feel prickly so I don't much like it..)
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I have hairy arms too. Like you said, not gorilla arms, but dense and light. I tried shaving my arms once because I was so self conscious about it, but the growing in and stubble looked even worse than the hair. I wouldn't worry about it, none of the guys I've dated have commented on it!
Honestly, if it REALLY bugs you, then do something about it. But do it for you, not for guys. I used to have hair on my arms and it bothered me so much that I got it permanently removed by laser. It's expensive but oh so worth it. I really wouldn't recommend shaving.
I shave my arms, and it's really no big deal. Yeah, the stubble does feel weird, if you let it develop, but it takes literally 10 seconds per arm to shave so I just do a quick once-over every time I shower and it's not an issue.
I don't know if it turns off guys or not; I do it because I prefer the smooth look. I did hear once that the only hair a guy wants to see on a woman is her head hair and eyebrows, but that's a little unfair. Whichever guys say things like that obviously have no idea how much of an ordeal hair removal can be!
"I did hear once that the only hair a guy wants to see on a woman is her head hair and eyebrows..."
That is ridiculous and not true at all. Even if it were, who cares?! Guys know that most women find our wrinkled, hairy nutsacks disgusting, but you don't see us cutting those off to please you, do you? What happens when a couple of guys decide that eyebrows and head hair aren't attractive on women--will women have to shave those, too? Where does it end?
It's your body. Do with it what you like. If you want to have hairy arms and legs and a natural bush, more power to you. Some guys will like it, some won't. You can't please everybody, so just please yourself.
Amen. Like I said, I thought it was pretty unfair, and not to mention ignorant. Glad to hear that most guys aren't that shallow!
I also agree that you should do whatever you want with your body, and find someone who loves it just the way you keep it.
Oh, and to Sherri (didn't want to make a separate post just for this; I'm feeling lazy): Like you said, it's just arm hair! So why would you be so freaked about some people liking to shave it? It's not like we're bleaching our @ssholes or something like that haha
wtf... no offense to anyone who does this, but... wtfffffffff? :p it's just arm hair. no one i know does this and tbh, i don't think i'd want to know anyone who does this. just my opinion, sorry.
Women are under no obligation to be completely hairless. If a guy has a problem w/your arm hair, he's the one with the problem not you.
I shave my arm hair, but only because I want to. I don't do it for men; I just don't like having hairy arms that much.
Wow I actually thought I was the only one with this problem. At any rate, ever since I was teased at secondary school I've had a problem with my arm hair. Eventually I had it waxed and I felt incredible. I haven't done it in the past few months though... I'm not sure whether I will again or won't. But the thought of someone seeing my arm hair doesn't cripple me with fear anymore. I guess my advice is: try waxing it a few times, you might learn not to care or you might see that you really do want it gone. It grows back, so trying can't hurt. Figuratively speaking, that is. Literally it hurts quite a bit.
Most of the stuff I've read on the matter (I looked into it a while back because I was also a bit self concious about them) advise not to shave, I suppose because of the stubble!
If you just want it a bit less hairy instead of going completely bald, do a few waxes and it may start growing back thinner and less noticeable. Also a few girls I know trim theirs with hair-cutting scissors. Personally I've never bothered though.
Every single one of my girl friends does this. (Except the naturally blonde, lucky b*tches! :P) I've been debating whether I should or not, but it seems like to much work to keep up with. I mean, it's already enough what with shaving nd waxing everything else.
But I think (as with mos fashion/beauty issues), it's something girls tend to notice more than guys. Ah well, if a guy is turned off simply by that, I find that I really don't care.
I'm lucky enough not to have arm hair (some of my girlfriends even thought I was shaving! lol) but I don't see the point of shaving the arm.
I mean, it's just arms! it's not like you had a moustache or a single eyebrow... And most of my guyfriends told me that as long as your skin is soft and smooth, no problem with hair. Except on the nipples, but that's another thing lol
Sigh...I have a few random, black hairs around my nipples. Not a lot, just like, three per nipple. I was hoping that guys wouldn't notice something like that haha. One of the great things about being single is that I don't have to worry as much about plucking them regularly!
as long as you don't have 3Km long hairs that's fine lol But one of my guyfriend told me a story about this girl that had so much hair around the nipples it was almost like a man! Not very attractive in bed.. lol
But we do have hair in ALL parts of our body... I think the only person I know that has no hair on legs/arms/pubes/etc (well except eyebrow and hair of course) is my grandmother, because when my great grandmother gave birth, one of her aunts looked at her and finding her too hairy already, covered her with salted butter. Since then, she doesn't have any hair! true story. I wish my grandmother was there when I just came out, my mom said I looked like a monkey..
The only time I've done it was way back in high school. Ah, peer pressure.
But seriously, I don't even shave all my leg hair, just below the knee.
I guess I'm lucky to not have dark hair - no one has ever noticed it to comment on it.
Does anyone remember that short phase where it was in fashion to wax off the downy hair on your lower back, you know, the stuff you need a magnifying glass and rays of strong midday sunlight to see. People are weird!
its stuff like this that makes me feel so out of the loop now lol i had no idea hairless arms was a thing now. that sounds like something that requires a lot of maintenance as well and seriously who has time to add one more step of grooming to the process lol
Honestly, I remove my arm hair just because of people and my boyfriend. Mine isnt so bad, and I'd prefer not to, but last year, my guys friends used to tease me about it all the time, and I must admit it hurts. So now, instead of hearing people talking about my arm hair, I simply remove it. Also, Im a bit hairy, so I have what I cal "sideburns", lol. I removed them for a while, but once they grow back, it aint pretty. Now, I just leave them as they are.
Being hairy shouldnt be an issue at all, it's natural and normal. People should just accept it and embrace whether people deal with it or let it go unnoticed. Really, it's a personla choice to shave, wax, or whatever.
Okay, I know a few girls that shave their arms. I tried it once and never again. Most of the time, the issue with arm hair is not so much the hair, but the darkness of it. I, myself, am part Middle-Eastern, so I know how frustrating it is. What you might look into doing if it really bugs you is simply get a bleaching kit. It'll turn the hair a light blonde that'll essentially be invisible on top of your skin. I've tried it a few times now, and have always been happy with the results. But, as others have said, do it for you, not for what a guy might think. If arm hair is gonna be a big enough of a turn-off to not even bother with the rest of you, then he's probably not worth bothering with.
Bleach it!
oh god, I'm a gorilla girl. I do tend to shave my arms in summer, but not religiously. At the moment my arm hair is kind of short and prickly. I wax them sometimes, but it's more of an effort. The thing is, some guys will notice, some guys might not like it, and some might not notice or care. The nice ones won't care, and you want to be with a nice one, right?! I just try to make sure i'm clean, tidy and presentable in the hairiness department, but I'm not waxed anywhere to perfection...I don't want that kind of thing to take over my whole life.
I don't see the big deal in shaving them. I shave my arms and I used to wax but it hurt. Plus it costs money that I hated spending on something I could spend ten seconds on in the shower. It does take just seconds, do it when you shave your legs. I LOVE the feeling right after a shave, so keeping up with it is worth it. Plus your skin will feel much softer and smoother and guys love smooth soft skin.
Use hair remover cream if you must, but don't shave! Stubble on arms wouldn't be pleasant and doesn't shaving make your hair grow back thinner?
Buy one of those hair removal cream products - you just apply the cream and then wash it off. Some even have elements in them which make hair regrowth thinner and lighter each time you use it.
Since elementary school when a large group of boys crowded around me and said "EWWWWWWW. GROSSSSS! YOU ARE SUCH A HAIRY FREAK." I've been obsessive about hair removal. The only hair I have on my body are my nicely shaped eyebrows, eyelashes and hair on my head. When I've let my arm hair grow out, ex-boyfriends have reverted back to the elementary school mindset and looked at me with repulsed faces. Thankfully, my current boyfriend could care less and even likes me for the things I can't stand about myself!
That's horrible!
People can be so cruel, especially in packs.
Thank goodness you have such a lovely man now. :)
Lol I seriously wonder if you overheard my conversation with a bunch of people at a bar.
Anyway, I think we're setting ourselves up to have way too much to maintain when we start shaving our arms and for that reason I can't make myself do it. So many people will tell you that unless guys have a real preference on pube hair they don't even care what is going on down there, so I doubt the number of them who care about arm hair is really high but there certainly are some.
I've never caught a man looking at my arms *shrug* so I don't think it is an area of high importance for most. I think those of us with tame arm hair might be better off forgetting the guys who have a problem with it than dealing with the itchy stubble and thick new growth that shaving them may bring.
Shaving arms was all the rage at my high school and it made me forever self-conscious about it. All the girls would constantly be like, "Hey, I shaved! My legs and arms are so smooth!" It always struck me as overdoing it. I mean, seriously, who DOES care about arm hair? I'd say that guys who do care about arm hair are shallow!
Not liking hairy arms on a woman is probably normal. I like feminine women like most men and excessive hairiness is not a typical feminine trait. When I see a woman with rather hairy arms I have to assume that she's rather hairy elsewhere.