I find it curious that you're wondering who the idiot is here when you are the one who sent an unwanted drunk text to somebody that you thought wanted you. I mean you said he's a guy that you like, you didn't say a guy that likes you. You have no idea if he's even interested in you.
This is why your situation is problematic. Some guys are very okay with receiving drunk texts that are lewd and explicit. Especially if they want to see you naked. Some guys aren't though. Some guys don't think that's appropriate behavior and will judge you for it. Seems like your dude is in the latter group. Now, you might think that's unfair and childish but there's an entire school of thought and television sketches galore about trying to stop people from sending drunk texts. They cause more trouble than they're worth and you can't take it back. Which is your case.
And the fact that you don't remember sending it (though I suppose you do have a record indicating that you did, indeed, send it) is more reason why he probably isn't feeling you right now because how is he to know that you didn't fire that text off to any number of guys. You don't remember sending it so its POSSIBLE that you don't remember NOT sending it to the 50-11 people. That, above all else is why he probably isn't feeling you right now. You can't be trusted to not be reckless. It might not be right, but it isn't exactly unreasonable.
Some folks might be like, dude should just get over it. And that could be true, but he feels how he feels about something you did. If he can't get over it, you probably weren't meant to be anyway.
It was written.
Personally I think he's being an idiot. I mean it's a drunk text. There are far worse things to end a friendship over. Dude needs to take a chill pill and laugh it off - you both should laugh it off, I certainly would. If he does drop you as a friend then he wasn't worth being a friend with anyway. If a guy friend that liked me drunk texted me saying he wanted to f**k me I'd be weirded out but I certainly wouldn't want to hang out with him anymore.
Its called liquid courage.. You got courageous, but did something we all do (at some point at least once, I've totally drunk texted and realized the next day...Oh shit wtf did I do?). Don't be too harsh on yourself, it is what it is.
Give it some time... if this is a guy you know from your social circle.. he'll eventually get over the shock and you guys may be able to laugh about it down the road.
The BFF is right though, drunk texts are a HUGE risk... some of us take it, some of us don't... and some of us didn't realize the risk at the time because... we were drunk.
Leave it for a time... wait for all the fall-out to settle (you can probably guarantee that he's told other mutual friends)... then find a way to laugh it off.
He may get over the shock and start looking at you in a new light. He might also get over the shock and be willing to just laugh it off. It's not like he's never done anything foolish while under the influence, right?
I am sure that he has done stupid stuff while being drunk. That is why I am wondering why he is being so judgmental. I can tell him anything and he does not judge me. I though we had this really cool friendship, but I guess I was wrong. I still want to at least patch up our friendship a little even if we are not as close as we were before.
I am sure that he has done stupid stuff while being drunk. That is why I am wondering why he is being so judgmental. I can tell him anything and he does not judge me. I though we had this really cool friendship, but I guess I was wrong. I still want to at least patch up our friendship a little even if we are not as close as we were before.
Give it some time... How long ago did this happen? Just carry on like it didn't happen, for now, until he is ready to talk about it. Wait for him to make the first move towards getting back to normal.
It is possible he isn't into you. So he is afraid after that display that you are interested in him and is uncomfortable. Rather than point blank saying so, his freezing you out may be his method to avoid. Your stories previously did not involve him. I'd probably try to apologize once and drop the subject. Then give it time. Only he can decide if/when he is ready to move past it and start talking again. You should accept that your relationship will probably never be the same.