How is it that you weren't snooping? From where I'm sitting, you look like a text book snoop. And you're absolutely right, once you bring it up, you're screwed because the issue you have does get superceded by the fact that you "somehow" came across a text message in his phone.
Which honestly, if you confronted me with something like that I might kick you to the curb. But I can be a bit evil.
Here's the issue, snooping aside, your boyfriend told somebody else that he doesn't like you as much as he likes somebody else. A somebody else that he attempted to get with unsuccessfully. You have every right to bring that up. But you should do so knowing that you probably don't need to be with this guy anyway. Effectively, he settled. And you don't want to be with somebody who feels like they're settling with you. That's no bueno.
While I don't condone snooping, the fact that you found something that is actually harmful to you is something you should feel compelled to bring up, though you should be prepared for it to end badly.
But you never want to be with somebody who's settling, do you?
You're absolutely right Panama....you should NEVER settle! That's why communicating in a relationship is very important. I had that talk with my boyfriend....now the funny thing is, I believe him when he tells me I'm the best he's ever had. I love hearing him tell me why as well. We both feel the same way. So if he thinks your not good enough, girlie I can guarantee YOU will get and deserve a h*ll of alot better than the guy you're with. Best of luck!
I wasn't snooping. I asked to use his phone to make a phone call and when I unlocked it--there was the text message, plain as day.
That's a big "OH SH*T!" moment for him.
My impulsiveness would have jumped out and confronted him right then and there when the screen showed up.
If that's true, and I see no reason why it shouldn't be, it's very plausible, I suppose he could get mad for you not averting your eyes, but if you're not expecting anything bad or private, then some "key words" might pop out at you before you even think whether you might want to read it or not. And I mean, how many times do you borrow a friend, boyfriend or family members phone, open it, a text appears and the natural conversation is "hey, you've got a text" followed by "what's it say?" Most of the time people don't hand their phones to someone when there's things on it they don't want seen. This guy wasn't bright, and you did nothing wrong, and you deserve MUCH better. I'm sure he realizes you saw the text, you probably should have said something right then, but either way, I wouldn't be surprised if he's been trying to guess at whether you read it, and if he's in trouble.
...maybe he wanted you to see it? 0.o
So, okay. You have his phone and unlocked it and it went straight to his text message pages, and you just happened to read it. So you didn't snoop, you were made aware of something accidentally that was his fault.
Okay. You're right. But I think you're worried about the wrong part. Snooping or not, he's sayign he's settling. That's why you need to have that talk with him. Sitting on it will only make you more mad.
I really don't see why you even had to ask this question. He clearly said, in so many words, that he'd rather be with that other girl than you! Are you saying that you're seriously considering staying with him after that??
No matter how much a guy liked me, if there was some other girl he'd rather have, I'd say "Bon voyage and happy hunting, mothaf*ckaa."