WTF? Is this a trick question?
Yes, you should dump him. Like, now.
Good god.
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WTF? Is this a trick question?
Yes, you should dump him. Like, now.
Good god.
Copyright 2012 WE: Women's Entertainment LLC. All rights reserved.
Statutory rape aside, (which is already not only a dump-able offense, but a pepper spraying one), why would you be with a guy that creeps you out?!
What website allows a 16 year old to participate in online dating? Please let me know...and I'll warn all my friends with teenagers.
It didn't necessarily have to be a dating website that they came into contact on, any website that they can talk to people they don't know is a possibility! Couldn've been Facebook for instance.
lol, you clearly don't use the internet.
You do realize that depending on the state you are in, you can be criminally liable for not turning him in? I'm assuming since you've been dating him, there's either been no criminal charges, or, the age of consent is 16 and he didn't commit an actual crime. Still, having a teenage stepdaughter, I would find that a shotgunnable offense, even if she were at an age of consent. You are clearly disturbed, rightfully, by his actions, especially since he tried to hook up again.
Disclaimer, I am here now only because my maternal grandparents did something similar; they ran off together when he was 26, she 14, got married at the same age, but stayed married for life Had they not did that back then, I would not even exist today. So, take my opinion for what it's worth.
I think I just threw up in my mouth....
I must swoop in an mention that the tag says "pedophile" but this is improper terminology for this case. If the victim has already reached puberty but not yet left adolescence, the proper term is ephebophile. :)
if you don't buy Cary's response, or any of the commenter's opinions, ask your dad what he thinks you should do.
One scary thing about this is that he likely didn't Just happen to meet her online, but rather went looking for her online to fulfill his fantasy.
Doing this to "indulge a fantasy" is the really creepy part of this whole thing! I am not discounting the age difference or the inappropriateness of this at all. But the fact that he admits it is a fantasy of his to be with YOUNG girls is the part that should have you running for the door.
This isnt a situation where he met somebody online and thought she was older then found out that she was underage... this is him seeking out somebody he has NO business hooking up with.
Wonder what made him admit this to you? Seems an odd thing to confess to doing if he didnt think he was going to be caught for it.
Save yourself the heartache, and the possible future bail money (if he keeps up this behavior), and find somebody that isnt so high on the creep meter.
Don't believe "just once" especially if you know he tried to get in touch with the 16 year old again. Is it her age or her that he finds attractive? In any case, it really doesn't matter. There's more here you don't want to know about... Trust your instincts.
Should we be calling the police?!!
We would need to know which state they live in. In some US states - and some countries, 16 is the age of "legal consent", meaning though what he did is creepy, he may not have broken any actual laws.
Also, if he did, the OP could get in trouble too, since US federal law makes it a crime to NOT report things like that, and it appears she didn't report it.
Dump him at warp speed.
Turn him into the police to save your own ass.
If he broke the law to indulge a fantasy, what else is he willing to do???
Funny, legal age where I live IS 16, used to be 14 which made me wanna hurl... what is the age of consent where she is (assuming USA)? Just curious.
In Canada the age of consent is 16 but there are exceptions. It is 18 years when the older person is in a position of authority or the relationship is formed in secret or over the internet or the older person was deceptive or used power to control the younger person.
A person under 16 but over 13 can consent to a person less than 5 years older providing that person is not in a position to exploit or control.
A person 12 or 13 can consent to someone less than 2 years older.
Let's just say, for arguments sake (lord knows why you would) you stay with him...you get married....will you trust him with a babysitter?...would you trust him with you daughter?....Scary thought huh?....RUN, FOREST, RUN!!!
I'm in a similar position. My boyfriend slept with a 15 year old (more than once) when he was 26. I know I should have called it off right away but I thought I could forgive him. Here we are months later, and I am still just as upset as I was initially. I finally realized his behavior is not something I can live with and broke up. I would have saved myself a lot of pain if I had just listened to my gut instinct from the start.
This is not a forgivable offense.
IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE NONCONSENSUAL TO BE RAPE! I mean, yes, it's totally creepy to have sex with a 16 year old, but an 18 year old could have consensual sex with a 16 year old and it would still legally be statutory rape. I don't really wonder why a guy would want to have sex with a teenager, but I question a teenager who wants to have sex with a grown man, blech.