That Beyoncé song has made an entire generation of women insufferable. That ditty just inflated expectations, allowing women to feel like a victim if their digits are decked out in the best of Zales.
I'm going to write a song called "Single Fellas," and the chorus is going to be "If you liked it then you shoulda put your mouth on it."
If women are entitled to tacky engagement baubles, then men are entitled to oral sex on demand. Right?
Wrong. No one deserves anything. If we all got what we wanted, when we wanted it, then nothing would ever be special. Let's be honest: you want your boyfriend to "put a ring on it" not because it's time, or because you deserve it, or because he "likes it." You want him to invite you to spend your life with him. Who wants a proposal at gunpoint? He should be compelled to ask you to marry him.
But before I forget: why were you snooping through your boyfriends stuff? I'm pretty sure that most people don't leave $700 in a box laying around. You were full on excavating his room looking for contraband, weren't you? You were suspicious or paranoid or insecure?
I can't stand this. What's worse, is that most women think it's totally okay to betray a boyfriend or husband's trust based on a hunch.
When a woman goes sneaking around looking to confirm her worst paranoid fantasies, she's going to find what she's looking for, even if it isn't there. You probably were on a hunt for love letters or panties, and instead found a box of money. And now it's all about this mystery cash.
It's his money. It's not your money. It could be for an engagement ring? Or a new car? Or a downpayment on something important to him? It could be his secret strip club account. Who knows? It's not your business.
You wouldn't like him searching through your room. Bottom line.
Hey, four years is a long time to date someone and not get a clue as to whether marriage is in the future. Have you asked him if it is, rather than go slinking behind his back like a Sketchasaurs?
"Proposal at gunpoint"! Excellent.
It's the perfect mix of douchery and good advice...kudos in striking the balance.
"That Beyoncé song has made an entire generation of women insufferable. That ditty just inflated expectations, allowing women to feel like a victim if their digits are not decked out in the best of Zales." Oh..that's good!
My wife was beside herself before I proposed, dropping hints, angry that I was buying furniture, keeping my apartment, etc. She didn't know I already had the ring, and I figured I'd get the last few things I wanted before it became a group decision.
Men aren't that complicated. If you're going to read so much into the $700, offer to take him to a strip club one night and then count the stash the next day. If it's the same, that's not what it was for.
Why are you sneaking around your bf's bedroom? Were you suspisious of something in the first place, then saw the money and had other thoughts? Do you not trust this guy? What if he doesn't propose? Will you confront him..or cry? Apologize for being a psycho gf?
That answer really did put a smile on my face. :) very honest and true. love it
Straight forward....I appreciate that. :)
i thought i didn't like where your answer was going when you dissed beyonce (did you see that video?) but you had me right back whenyou started w/ single fellas...
You're sooooooo right. I'm a female and don't understand that whole snooping thing. And four years? Don't most guys know if they want to marry a woman or not? $700 could buy drugs, strippers...furniture.
Nothing says I love you like snooping.
"If you liked it then you shoulda put your mouth on it."
priceless! LMAO
LMAO.
"...I'm going to write a song called "Single Fellas," and the chorus is going to be "If you liked it then you shoulda put your mouth on it."
I don't know why,but that made my day.
If you're so worried ask what it's for, that way you can also explain what you were doing looking through his things. It will be a moment of truth for you both!
I have been guilty of internet detective work, thank God I was forgiven!!!
As absolutely wonderful most of your advice is, I'm afraid I can't agree with this particular piece of it.
It is natural for men to fear commitment. They are built for the chase. That is why, generally, they are the ones that propose. This moment marks when they are finally ready to commit to one person.
In a society where men that have been in long, successful relationships, and sometimes have even had babies with their girlfriends, do not want to commit, I think it is much better for women to leave than to pressure them into it. Like you said, it is the man inviting her to spend the rest of her life with him, and for that reason it should stem from his own will.
The lady may have different life plans and should be respected for them. If a woman is putting her heart, soul, and most importantly, TIME into a relationship, she is probably expecting it to lead to further commitment. If not, what's stopping her from giving that love to someone else who is deserving, will appreciate it, and will commit to her? She may be ready to find a soul mate and walk down the aisle, and she should be spending no more of her precious time on a man who isn't willing to wait at the other end.
I think you've read the entire meaning of the song incorrectly. It is not an empty threat to pressure a man into marriage. Even a woman's ideal dream is not to marry someone who doesn't want to marry her. The song makes it clear that the women are SINGLE and proud because they have detached themselves from men that were not complementing them but only depleting them of their love.
As absolutely wonderful most of your advice is, I'm afraid I can't agree with this particular piece of it.
It is natural for men to fear commitment. They are built for the chase. That is why, generally, they are the ones that propose. This moment marks when they are finally ready to commit to one person.
In a society where men that have been in long, successful relationships, and sometimes have even had babies with their girlfriends, do not want to commit, I think it is much better for women to leave than to pressure them into it. Like you said, it is the man inviting her to spend the rest of her life with him, and for that reason it should stem from his own will.
The lady may have different life plans and should be respected for them. If a woman is putting her heart, soul, and most importantly, TIME into a relationship, she is probably expecting it to lead to further commitment. If not, what's stopping her from giving that love to someone else who is deserving, will appreciate it, and will commit to her? She may be ready to find a soul mate and walk down the aisle, and she should be spending no more of her precious time on a man who isn't willing to wait at the other end.
I think you've read the entire meaning of the song incorrectly. It is not an empty threat to pressure a man into marriage. Even a woman's ideal dream is not to marry someone who doesn't want to marry her. The song makes it clear that the women are SINGLE and proud because they have detached themselves from men that were not complementing them but only depleting them of their love.
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