"Unless you are really, really, tall your husband is a classic chubby chaser. He likes a woman with a lot of meat on her bones."

WHAT?! since when is 130 pounds considered chubby?! i weigh 130! then again, i'm 8' 7"...

seriously, 130 pounds is NOT CHUBBY. but if you are feeling chubby at 170 pounds, then start a workout regimen - a nice, easy workout regimen. no need to go hardcore right way. stop when you feel comfortable with your own weight regardless of whether or not your husband is a so-called "chubby chaser".

:)

I'm 170, been this way since I was 16 or 17 ish. However, I have some really nice boobs and a lot of ass. Not so much in the waist. I also managed to gain 40 pounds when I was pregnant with my son. However, I was 18 at the time and managed to lose it all in about 3 or 4 months. There is something to be said for having them young! It's much easier on the body.

Don't be so hard on yourself. Focus on getting healthy for yourself. Not for anyone else.

Maybe he doesn't want you to be able to kick his ass.
Or- When you start getting strong from all the gym classes, maybe it would threaten his sense of manhood, say as the protector of the family?
Or - Maybe if you stay heavier, he won't have to feel jealous and threatened by all the hot dads out there who understand the femininity of motherhood?
Or- Maybe he doesn't want to have to work off the sympathy weight?

Just some other options besides "chubby chaser", which I think is a shot in the dark. You could be right, Mystery Man. I just don't know.

What does it matter whether your husband is a Chubby Chaser or not? The most important thing is that despite 40 extra pounds of flesh is on you, he still thinks you're beautiful. Embrace your weight, or lose it. It is your choice - but remember: either way your husband thinks "you da bomb"

The thing about men is that we're never quite sure how we tricked our women into staying with us, and many live with the deep seated belief that one day, in the not so distant future, governments will stop spiking the water supply. On that day, women everywhere will look at their man-things, seeing for the first time the very worst that we see in ourselves. As foretold, all women summarily depart to found their own sapphic utopia, leaving us cold, hungry and desperately alone.
So, I'm throwing my bets with Dirtmonkey in saying it's as likely to come from his own insecurities than anything else.

Mannon, that was hilarious!

Yeah, keep in mind people, she wants to work out and lose the weight. He's not telling her to do it. He's actually telling her not to do it. So, telling her to take it slow and easy doesn't sound like good advice to me. She wants to take action and should.

I would agree that it sounds more like the husband is dealing with his own insecurities in a detrimental way. Dude, just for the fact that she wants to take kickboxing classes tells me she could probably already kick your a$$. Martial arts of all types and sparring are very empowering. In addition to helping to lose the baby weight, it could really help prevent post-baby blues. I highly recommend it!

Maybe he just doesn't want to pay for it. Gym rights can get expensive.

Jeez she doesn't have to be that tall. Seriously, I am 5ft 10 and about 170 and I would not call myself chubby when I wear size 6 jeans! I know my husband loves me just the way I am and hates it when I lose weight. Maybe your guy is just the same.

First of all, 170 lbs isn't really chubby chaser material, unless you are super short. I'm around 5'6 and swim vaguely below that area by 5 to 10 lbs and my body is able to allocate the weight correctly into a pleasant hourglass, not mounds of lard. Unless you are a dwarf, you will probably not look like a "fatty" at 170.

If you are like me and rise beyond the low end of five feet tall, 130 may have been pretty thin on your form, probably on the more athletic end. This can be appealing to some guys but most seem to like seeing the female form a little softer and curvier, especially since after having a baby you know a lot of it has gone into the top shelving. Your body may not be as slender, but it might actually look more feminine. Check out your body in a full length mirror, and try to look at it in a positive light. Are you determined to lose weight because you think you need to be as thin as a magazine cover model to be pretty? Do you automatically connect going up in dress size numbers with getting uglier and becoming unattractive to your man? If so, the problem may lie with you and your self-image, not your husband.

At any rate, I would talk to him about why he is against you taking kickboxing classes, and maybe lose the weight gradually, perhaps finding a new "happy weight" on your way down.

Maybe he doesn't want to watch the kids during the class. [insert eyeroll here] That's why my ex-husband tried to keep me home more often than not.