You haven't been officially dumped. An official dumping would be if he called you and said, "Thanks for the blow-job. I'm off to the Belgian Congo, have a nice life."
No, it sounds more like you've been unofficially dumped, which is when he's through with you but forgets to, like, inform you and stuff, so you're left wondering what the deal is until you have to ask some smart, experienced guy on the internet to fill in the blanks for you.
That internet guy has some questions. Did you even have a relationship to be dumped from, or was this an early encounter? I ask because if you've been dating homey a while and your relationship is comfortable, he might not think twice about being incommunicado for a few days, even after sex. And how long has it been since you rendered your special services and stopped hearing from him? Are we talking two or three days, or two or three weeks? Big difference.
If you've been dating the guy a while, then yes, I'd call him and ask him what's up. For all you know, he has ebola or something. But if you blew the guy on the first or second date and haven't heard back in a few days, then it's safe to assume you've been dumped and hell no, don't call him, unless it's just to cuss him out. He got what he wanted from you, and now he's off to find new and exciting places to put his thang.
Hopefully it was as fun for you as it was for him. Somehow I doubt it.
"Should I call to verify" made me laugh. My ex husband signs all proposed visitation emails with, "please reply with confirmation." Anyhoo..
Without knowing the answers to the questions you asked, it's hard to know for sure. But my gut tells me she got played. Sorry, sister (I'm assuming, NTTAWWT), not all guys are that bad. Hope he didn't leave a bad taste in your mouth. Er, um, yeah...
Please reply with confirmation.
Unfortunately, I don't think he will call again either. I think you need to move on and chalk this up to experience. You are better off without him. Some guys are just cads. They don't have respect for women, and they treat them badly. They use them for their own needs and then disappear. Samsmama is right, though, they aren't all that way. In fact, I think the honorable ones far outnumber the less than honorable ones, so don't give up on them entirely. I would suggest you take things a lot slower next time around, though.
Looks like you covered all the bases (yet again) Cary. Great response!
"The blown and the blown off" ~ LMAO!! I think I seen this movie.
Tom Robbins once wrote 'That blowjob did not come with a lifetime guarantee'.
This is no different than a guy writing 'she put her mouth on my personal area and now she won't return my calls'. Sometimes sex is just sex, and the only problem is when all parties involved aren't on the same page.
I must agree with Cary. I should also say, IF you guys have been together (having relations) for a while ... it could be a different story. Need more info, though.
I have a gentleman friend whom I see casually. Our friendship developed over about 9 months and then we crossed that line. We have our own lives and he, especially, gets VERY busy. He's divorced w/an insane ex and a young daughter. His life gets very hectic and we both have busy schedules. There are times we don't connect for weeks and then other times, depending on our lives, more often.
Is it an established "relationship"? Or have you only know him a little while? Are you friends who crossed a blurry line? Or, are you practically strangers?
Many factor to be considered.
Best wishes, though!
Guys can be such dicks. I apologize for the bad eggs. They negate much progress made by the good ones. Keep looking. You can find a good one.
Give it up Lefty, she ain't gonna let you "paint her tonsils" just because you were nice to her on the internet.
You have to buy her coffee first...
Haha nicee.
Poor thing I feel for you. Thats a real a**holeish of him to do to you. Well learn from it and move on. If it was early on like right at the beginning maybe this will help to remember not to give him what he wants right off the bat, wait awhile. Hope to help. And yes this has happened to me. And I'm sure lots of girls. And guys wonder why were so hostile towards them. It's guys like this that give them all a bad name.
If you show a guy you are "easy" he's not likely to call you again.
Before I started having sex I had a first "date" with a guy. I made it clear from the start that we wouldn't be having sex. But I liked the guy so I gave him head. Lets just say we defiantly never went out again.
Guys talk about how awesome it is to get laid by random girls...but they dont want a relationship with those random girls.
This is why, when seeing someone new, I focus on just doing what I want (which is usually the same as what he wants), and what I/we will mutually enjoy. Okay, some people really enjoy giving head, but let's face it, only one person gets off on it. I find that some people (especially girls) feel that they have to do certain things in order to get a guy to like them. Screw that. Have sex that you both can enjoy. If he calls again, great. If he doesn't, hey, at least you got great sex out of it. If you're getting what you want, and not simply "servicing" him (implying that there's some sort of transaction going on that you haven't been paid for), then you have nothing to regret.