He doesn't look at me, is he gay?. He touches my back lightly, is he gay? He likes my to play with his backdoor, is he gay? All questions I have received in the last 24 hours alone.
Just quit it with the whole "Is he gay?" thing. It is getting monotonous, and really rather annoying for all of us guys here.
And now for this one ...
Who's penis? At any one time I'll have at least two penis pictures on my phone, because some - well, most - of my friends are immature dicks who think that sort of thing is really funny. (It is to me, too, but only 'cause they are all so tiny in comparison.)
Is it his? Some guys use that as their calling card. Again, stupid and immature, but there you go. Some guys never grow up.
The shemale stuff is a bit different. I am assuming you meant you caught him, because if you started it off, you have nothing to complain about.
I talked this one over with a few mates online, male, female, straight, bi and gay. We came to the conclusion that he is probably bi-curious. Shemale porn is far less intimidating than gay porn for a guy who is curious about the whole other way of doing sex, as subconciously the guy gets reassured by the presence of boobs.
It is possible that he is fully bisexual, but my gay and bi friends think that is highly unlikely at the moment. I bow to their expertise.
So, what you gonna do? Accept it as part of his personality?
Or be shallow?
im not sure about that rule of thumb.....brokeback mountain comes to mind lol
Never seen it. Don't watch chick flicks
I'm sure there are plenty of gay guys who have "nailed" straight women. It's called being in the closet. Aside from the practical joke penises...are you telling me a straight guy would carry around pictures of other men's genital equipment...on purpose? Uhhhhh, hopefully that's a NO.
You *could* ask him but if he's shy or uncomfortable, there's a good chance he won't tell you the truth.
For now...trust your gut and use protection?
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I agree. I think "oh he's gay" is a cop out for alot of the unexplained or unusual sex habits. (not that there's anything wrong with being gay...my gay friends are often more liberated and cool that uptight straight friends!)
I'm a straight chick and my XBF of 8 months never wanted to have sex with me, but would want to kiss and sleep (spoon/cuddle) with me.
He said he didn't want to "attach" to me b/c he wasn't good with relationships and didn't want to hurt me or lead me on, though he called me 2x a day and didn't see anyone else but his dudes every weekend (aka commitment phobe??).
He a month to month guy at the gym too... didn't even want to sign a year's membership, because he wasn't sure he'd want to stay that long.
I posed the Q here, and the GuySpeak response (and some comments) included a thought that he might be gay (or a-sexual avoiding the homo lifestyle).
I thought he was just inexperienced and had general anger and anxiety issues.
I say, let's not label it. At all.
It is what it is.
If you're cool with it, great.
I would honestly be worried if I were yu. I am a female and if I caught my fiance looking at shemale porn I would be scared that he would actually want to commit these actions. Plus for all the people who say it is not gay to look at shemale porn, I'm sorry to burst yur bubble but it is. And let me clarify before the angry gasps escape, shemales or trannys are originally males, just because they have breast implants does not make them a woman. It doesn't. They were born a male and shall always be a male. Therefore, yur man is in fact bi... sorry, but just because yu have fake breasts does not make yu a woman, yu still cannot produce breast milk, which is the only reason for breasts & yu cannot get pregnant so yu are indeed a male.
(Goodkarmagirl) Ah first the term is Transsexual ! Not Shemale ! Shemale is a term used in the porn industry ! Looking at Transsexual porn IS NOT GAY ! Transsexuals MTF are not gay either ! Sexuality is between the ears as well as genitals. Ignorant people making comments on a topic they nothing about ! I'm Transsexual MTF ! Gay men want nothing to do with us, PERIOD ! GAY men are not attracted to any form of females ! Since we look like Females and are females or Trans women, Gay men do not like us ! Straight men are the ones who chase us and are interested in us ! that is Scientific fact ! And Wrong again !!! We can and do lactate ! God ! The ignorance of some people !
To the OP, Yep I'm aware your issue has probably been resolved by now but I will answer anyway ! What you have discovered may be just a fantasy for him. Lots of us do have fantasies and they are just that and never acted upon.
If you are that concerned about it, talk to him in a calm and rational manner about it. Listen to him, don't yell and scream you will only make the situation worse. Once you get him to open up, you can then take it from there and work this out between the two of you.
My apologies ! Sorry GoodKarmaGirl ! My post was directed at Amber's post and the OP's question.