"One of those girls?" One of which girls? The kind that drinks alcohol, starts sweating, loses control of her bowels, goes into anaphylactic shock, and dies on the barroom floor?
Dear Lady, your job is not to convince dudes that you actually are allergic to alcohol; your job is to not drink alcohol. I could be overstating your reaction to booze, but even if it gives you a slight rash or makes you nauseas - so be it, you are allergic.
As you know there is no such thing as a dumb question, but there is such a thing as an insecure question. I think that's what we are looking at here. Don't worry how these particular dudes react. Guys that are worth their weight in alcohol, or gold, aren't spun out by this sort of thing. They don't get all frat headed about you being a non-drinker -- AKA "different". Seek out and hang with the fellas who don't laugh, but rather ask genuine questions about your situation and then move on to other topics.
Lastly, the fear for dudes who meet women who don't drink is this, "Oh no, abort flirting, if she doesn't drink she doesn't get drunk and if she doesn't get drunk she likely won't party and blow me, etc."
If you so choose, you can "party" without the booze. Dance, make-out, smash chairs like everyone else. In other words, if it's in you get down and drunk on self, while the others around you charge up on liquid courage.
It’s really nobody’s business unless you are in a relationship (or close to one), right? If you are offered a drink, just say “No thanks, I appreciated it though!” (Don’t forget to smile.) If a guy is persistent, he’s not the one for you & you don’t have to give him any explanation. You really don’t want to be with “one of those guys” anyway…
Well, techically there is no such thing as an allergy to alcohol. Guess that's why the boys laugh. It sounds like an excuse. You might be allergic to some ingredient inside of alcoholic drinks though. Or you are just cannot metabolize the stuff. A better way would be just saying: "No thank you, I don't drink." There is simply no room for discussion in this statement, and no room for laughter too.
Wow. Kind of a know-it-all huh? That's actually irrelevant. Everyone reserves the right to choose not to drink for whatever reasons they may have. Whether or not you believe a literal allergy to alcohol exists doesn't matter. This young lady needs to do what is best for her health. People like you shouldn't make her feel bad about herself for doing so.
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I am not intending on making the questioner feel bad about herself. I am actually encouraging her just to say she does not drink and not to give a f**ck what the others think, or try to explain why, because it's her choice.
Yeah, might be irrelevant for you if its an allergy or not, but not irrelevant for her health.
But there is such a thing as alcohol intolerance. While not technically an allergy, perhaps she feels it's easier to explain it as an allergy (when I looked at the definition, it certainly sounded like an allergy to a non-medical person like myself). To be honest, your response "Guess that's why the boys laugh" was off-putting.
I do agree that no explanations should be necessary, but I don't see why "I don't drink" would stop laughter any faster than "I'm allergic"; to me, these guys sound immature and I'm sure their response to either of these options would be the same. They laugh, assume she's prissy or whatever people who can't drink unless everyone else around them is also drinking think of people who don't drink. Maybe it's insecurity--they think those who don't drink will judge them.
LB - you're mistaken there are actually people allergic to alcohol with the same reaction people have to nuts or strawberries or shellfish. There are people who also cannot metabolize it well because they lack the necessary enzymes but those are actually different and it IS possible to be allergic. Too bad most boys think they know everything and will laugh anyway. BTW, I am neither but I do have a good friend who is actually allergic. She has actually learned how to not have it be an issue, she goes and hangs out with people drinking and has soda but is still fun and nobody notices or cares that she's not drinking. So I'd advise the original asker to just try and not feel awkward about it, tell people and then have it be done - not up for discussion anymore. If you're fun to hang out with (rather than a downer who doesn't want others to drink if she can't) people won't care. Guys trying to take advantage of you might but you don't want them anyway.
It doesn't matter whether you refrain from drinking for medical reasons, or just for personal choices. If you don't want to drink, nobody has the right to make you feel bad for it. And why would they? FG is on the money with this one, the guys are likely just mad that they can't get you drunk and are less likely to get anything out of you.
I don't drink just because I find it's easier as a whole not to. I meet people who don't understand my reasoning or think it's weird, but I've never been made fun of for it or had someone try to get me to drink. But if not drinking makes me one of "those girls," then I'll wear the title with pride.
I tend to feel like an alien when I let people know I don't drink alcohol. It's really difficult to explain to new people, they're always so suprised and confused. My reasons are my own, and I feel I shouldn't have to explain, yet somehow I always end up having to either explain or face the bottle. Glad to see there are people who don't see it weird!
Heh, I've lied having hypothyroidism to avoid explaining people Maybe OP should try telling everyone you're the driver for the evening? ;)
Its actually kind of silly that you have to explain to other people why you are not willing to swallow toxic substances, whereas it is totally the norm to do so. People are wierd.