This is clearly a bizarro world question and stands in direct contrast to this recently asked question.
What world do you live in where men "love" to give oral sex? I'm not sure if you've heard the news but women who can find a guy to engage with her badlands in this manner, tend to be very satisfied. They also tend to smile all day long. The fact that you don't like it is strange, but is actually pretty sweet trait for a lot of guys, especially those who find the act totally gross. And, the fact that you love to give it makes you a superstar in the dating world. While it is odd that you don't enjoy it, this is a dating bonus because so many dudes have hangups about it.
Maybe you don't enjoy it because your guy isn't any good at it? Time for a heart to heart with him. You have to talk to him for sure. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Mystery Man is right, when you can find a guy that knows what he's doing you won't be able to wipe the grin off your face.
I am with the original poster. It does absolutely nothing for me and I find it really hard to believe that I just happen to have found only guys that are no good at it. The odds of that are just too slim.
The lowest common denominator is obviously ME...I just don't love it. Big deal. My solution is to direct my boyfriend to other foreplay activities that I enjoy more. He certainly isn't offended because he just wants to do whatever I enjoy! Besides, one of those foreplay activities I enjoy is giving so even less reason for him to complain ;)
actually, 'dont like it either' mystery man is actually right, when they really know what they are doing...u wont wonder or be on the fence about it and it is the biggest smile u have ever smiled. I was lukewarm about it until I found someone who actually did know what they were doing and enjoyed doing it...as the majority of guys dont care for it they're lack of enjoyment is directly proportionate tothe number of guys who dont do it well...so no, the odds are actually correct...depending on how many you've allowed to give it a shot, odds are you have run into the mediocre majority....
In all honesty I'm really not a huge fan of it myself! I've been with people that were actually quite good at it but it's really not my favorite thing to do, I'd rather just have sex! But in return I don't mind giving blow jobs, I used to trade back massages for blow jobs with my ex because I enjoyed that far more than him going down on me!
I would give daily, if not hourly, back massages if it was trading for blowjobs. I'd do all the housework too, come to that. I think you may have discovered the greatest bartering system of all time..
That is genius! I love giving head but I would prefer a good back massage at least 10 times more than receiving. I'm gonna keep that in mind for future. lol
Of course there's always the possibility that these other people are right and I've just gotten bad oral from all the people I've been with, which would just be sad.
hello,
well in my opinion i love giving and recieving, it is the mainly how i orgasm
i get many at a time
wow i luv how its okay for guys not to like giving oral but it's pretty much a deal breaker if a girl doesn't like giving oral?? but whatever cuz i hate it wen guys go down on me.....and i definately prefer giving to receiving [=
i agree. i call BS on that. boo!
i've actually made a conscious decision to get rid of a guy if he doesn't go down on me enough. i ain't trying to waste my time with that nonsense.
Sorry, I have had guys that are very good at it... didn't enjoy it anymore. Felt like an obligation! Now going down on a guy... Yeah! I would much rather spend time with a rock hard cock hitting my G spot....
Sorry, have to agree.... never enjoyed oral, and I have certainly had some partners that could do it well just not nearly as satisfying to me as a hard cock hitting that g spot repeatedly!
Ladies, if you don't love having your love bud getting some good warm oral stimulation, then I think you have body issues. As in you don't want a man looking/craming his face in that area.
Get over it. Realize that men LOVE vaginas. Men love everything about vaginas. If they love the carpet munching my God hold onto that man!
Lets get a collective "I LOVE MYSELF, I AM BEAUTIFUL" say it until you believe it and I know you will then enjoy oral sex.
Wow, some of us do not have body issues as you stated.
As you can partly see, I am gorgeous, however at my ripe age of 40, Oral does nothing for me...and many other women. Even though I can "suck the chrome off a trailer hitch" with my hubby...oral on me does nothing for me.
Nothing to get over hon, he pleases the f-ing hell outta me regardless. And like Roxy states, he hits the G-Spot with precision.
Wow, some people need to learn, accept and realize that, ALL PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT!
Well I'm speaking as a 24 year old with a limited world view. I would hope that by your age most women would be much more comfortable with their bodies having occupied it for that period of time. Also have a better idea of what it is they want/don't want and like/don't like. However, at this age, a lot of women are pretty embarresed and believe everything they read about men in Glamor magazine even though most of it is hogwash. They don't want oral because of shame, not because they don't like it. Most don't even let go long enough to even see if they would enjoy it.
If it does nothing for you, awesome. Glad you explored that and figured it out and now focus on what you do like. More power to you. However, there are women who just won't go there and it's because of poor body image.
Well I personally find giving oral and receiving oral gross. I'm sure 10 years down the line when my hormones + therapy kick in, I'll be open to both. But for now, no thank you. And to the posters above saying it is a deal breaker for men? Find new men! I have had several great relationships, and while I'm sure the guy would have preferred to get oral in addition to regular sex, it was no deal breaker! If a guy loves you, he will understand. A relationship is a LOT more than what goes on in the bedroom :-) However, like anything, there are exceptions and some guys probably wouldn't want to go the rest of their life without oral. Although, I think once you're with someone long enough, you start to get more open about sexual things... :-)
my 2 cents!
I hate it too! It's just annoying to me! A hard cock and a back massage? Heaven! (plus my husband gives me the best "hand jobs")hehehe
Glad to finally hear some other women of the same opinion!
I always thought I was alone in this! I'm not a fan of oral; my fiance does a well job and when he does it, he satisfies me. But, I definitely never ask him for it, and most of the time when he tries to, I tell him no. I would much rather him satisfy me by having sex or by touching me down there :) thats the best feeling to me
WELL WORLD I LOVE TO GIVE ORAL SEX MY GURL DOES NOT LIKE IT AT ALL ITS NEW TO ME BUT IT FORCES ME TO BE MORE CREATIVE IN MOST CASES WE AS MEN THAT LOVE AND DO IT REALLY WELL WE OFTEN USE THAT AS THE KNOCK OUT PUNCH BUT WEN YOUR GURL DONT LIKE IT IT CAUSES YOU TO STEP YOUR GAME UP AND FIND OTHER WAYS TO MAKE HER HAPPY NOW ON THE OTHER HAND SHE LOVES TO GIVE SO IT IS A PERFECT TRADE OFF ME
OMG I hate it!!! Seriously...who likes a ton of saliva on their ...their..yeah, you know. ugh. Keep your spit to yourself, boys, even while doing the nasty cake eating.
I'm a 26 year old female and every guy I have dated and my ex husband liked to give oral to me. I HATE it! I thought they did it to give me pleasure, but when I mentioned that I don't like it to them, they got angry. So, now I just grin and bear it... It feels like a slimy snail crawling on me and all I can think about is washing his saliva off before it gives me an infection. I do however loooove intercourse and giving a BJ as long as he doesn't finish in my mouth. EW..
I'm a 26 year old female and every guy I have dated and my ex husband liked to give oral to me. I HATE it! I thought they did it to give me pleasure, but when I mentioned that I don't like it to them, they got angry. So, now I just grin and bear it... It feels like a slimy snail crawling on me and all I can think about is washing his saliva off before it gives me an infection. I do however loooove intercourse and giving a BJ as long as he doesn't finish in my mouth. EW..
Oh yeah, and what's with guys and wanting backdoor sex?!?! I keep my backdoor locked at all times. What's wrong with the front door???
Oh yeah, and what's with guys and wanting backdoor sex?!?! I keep my backdoor locked at all times. What's wrong with the front door???
Hmmm. If all men loved BJ done to them, I would hate it. Why a woman's anal or mouth when she has your opposite? I mean, is the world really that blind? That's why I never think am part of this world anyways, cos it's full of shit and easy sins.
Personally I hate receiving oral. I find that guys just don't know their way around enough. They're often too wet, too fast and too damn rough from the get go, although the slobber alone is enough to turn me off completely. One thing that I find people don't mention about eating out a girl is that guys don't realize that the urethra exists and does not enjoy the same poking around as the vagina!!! It f-ing hurts and it feels flat out disgusting! Guys, try sticking a pencil up your pee-hole and get a feel about what I'm talking about.
And btw, what's this nonsense advice I keep coming across for guys to 'lick the alphabet', that's the most boring advice I've ever heard and it's so widespread!
I HATE it!!!! And I agree with the person who said it feels like a slimy snail. My question is this: do guys REALLY like giving it because they want to please THEIR PARTNER? Or is the truth that they want to please THEMSELVES? My ex boyfriend would always insist he wanted to please me, but what he really wanted was to please himself -- to feel good about HIMSELF making someone go ooh ahhh. If he really wanted to please ME, then he'd listen when I said I HATED it and wouldn't get angry or tell me there's something wrong with me for not liking it. And to the armchair psychologists here: NO, it has nothing to do with "body issues." It has to do with it feels gross and makes me feel like a total piece of meat, thank you very much!
I SWEAR u guys have to be gay! :/ I fucking love oral and when a guy dosnt do it I dumped them or they are shit in bed fullstop. I lv feeling their warm wet mouth over my flaps and bitin my inner thighs euh! Soooo good exytra bronie points to the sex a guy MUST suck me for me to fall for him, if he refuses to I almost feel like forcing his head down there :) suck me biatch ;)