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I hate people. Is this something I need to fix?

It's not something you need to do, but something you may want to look into. Don't get me wrong, people on the whole are a nasty breed: Selfish, aggressive, malicious smelly creatures and those are just the ones you spend holidays with. Flip to any page of a history book and you're likely to find people "A" treating people "B" like a hotel towel (while people "C" watch s from a safe distance).

Now, I'm assuming that's why you hate people. But I'm also assuming that lately you haven't gotten glimpses or exposure to the other stuff: rays of human kindness and small acts of love that make life super bearable -- if not outright hopeful.

Don't buy into that answer? Fine, Try this:

Not hating people is to your advantage. My wife often reminds of this when I yell at AT&T or my cable company for unspeakable things, like dropped calls or a break in reception from my Pay-Per-View boxing order. "What the f*ck do you mean you can't fix this till tomorrow? I have it 5 rounds to 5 going into the 11th, you bag of human-ass-puke!" She reminds me that staying calm and levelheaded will 1. make the other human more likely to help me and 2. go along way toward my mental health.

You see, accumulating hate for people is not a good way to operate; it doesn't make life easier, it weighs it down and makes every interaction more painful. Besides, don't let people get off so easy. Let them earn your hatred.

Lastly, you may be in a specifically hateful mood right now do to being wronged by a certain person or group of people. If that's the case, work on healing yourself from this situation. Communicate your anger, or talk to a helpful third party on ways to extricate yourself. Once you take a step back from those rotten apples, and stop watching the 10 o'clock news, reading newspapers or going to the mall on a weekend, your hate for humanity may subside and a far more decent human orchard will take its place.

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silkysly

Hate is a very STRONG word. Sad..., very sad.

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I was going to say the same thing. Hate is a very strong word. I am wondering if you hate yourself and your issue is mirrored in what you see in other people. Yes we are all human and have our good sides and less desirable sides.

People don't naturally hate people. Watch children, they will come running to you with outstretched arms. My guess is that you have been hurt pretty bad in the past. Healing and finding your own self-esteem will make you certainly hate people less and maybe even develop some compassion and love toward our follow person traveling this journey of being human.

chrissie1101

you get what you give. whether or not you need to change it depends on what kind of life you want. multiplying one hate upon another is not going to breed love. i always feel bad for people that live their lives with anger, even when it is directed at me, it makes me wonder what it is inside them that is causing so much pain. because that is exactly what is happening. people that angry and "hateful" aren't born that way, it was created for them by someone, something, somehow, even if that someone is you. and the anger and hate that they show the world is just the pain coming out. if you don't know why you feel that way, ask your doctor to refer you to a professional. or choose better. or choose hate. but no matter what you choose, you WILL get what you give.

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Just wanted to say thanks for answering my question, Amit. I got rid of most of the bad apples, but if a couple of them are family members, they are pretty difficult to avoid. lol@ going to the mall on a weekend! Oh boy, I used to work there on Saturdays, and it was a total nightmare.

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I read this somewhere: “People suck. Expect it, move on, and be free.”

We all suck. Every human on this planet sucks. It’s a part of our nature. Can you enumerate how many times you’ve hurt someone or let them down? If you can’t think of anything, then you’re delusional. My French bulldog is the only perfect, suckless soul I’ve ever met.

People that pretend they don't suck are the ones that suck the worst. Watch out for them the most.

Now go somewhere quiet and grow up, punk.

Peace!

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