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I have a good online friend whom I used to have phone sex with a lot. One day he sorta acted like he didn't wanna do it anymore and I never asked why. We are still great friends and talk for hours a day. I suppose I am just wondering why he would want to stop. He doesn't have a girlfriend, and I suppose I miss doing it.

It could be that he started to feel awkward once things crossed from friends into racy, 1-900 number territory. Maybe he doesn't feel as strongly for you as you do for him. Or maybe he realizes that it's a long-distance relationship and doesn't want to get more emotionally involved.

Sounds like you only sort of miss the dirty talk part of your friendship. Are you interested in a relationship with him? Do you have feelings for him? If you do, ask him if anything has changed. Let him know you liked the direction the relationship was going, but understand if he doesn't want to get involved in anything long-distance. If you're good friends, you should be able to address the elephant in the room (well, over the phone). Ask him why the sudden change. Though be prepared for him to say he just wants to continue to be friends. Cooling off on the phone nookie is his way of saying that he would prefer to keep things in the online friend zone.
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my guy would sing > If I could turn back the hands of time , every now & then they play it and its as if he's looking me in the face singing

what he sow he most certainly reap

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Wow aber... you certainly give thoughtful and profound insight.

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my guess would be that he either has a girlfriend that he hasn't told you about, or maybe he wants more with you and the phone sex thing isn't cutting it enough. if you are LDR and that isnt likely to change, it could be anything. hard to say though, but if you have the kind of friendship that engages in hours of convos, you should just tell him you miss it. just be low key and cas about it, "hey guy, i miss our phone dates, ever think of doing that again?" and guage his response. if he's your friend, whatever the reason is, he will handle it keeping your feelings a priority. my bf started pulling back on the affection a few months in, but down the road he eventually told me it was because he was beginning to like me more and didnt know where i stood with him so didn't want to go all in yet really. maybe that's the case, only your phone friend knows but if he cares about you, he will hear you out at least and at least you will know one way or the other.

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