Better to look like a fool than regret being one.
But first things first: what is an "off-limits" guy? You mean you've planned a sexy getaway with a guy who has a girlfriend or is married? Or you're currently involved with someone? Is that what you mean? Words have power. They shape the way we think and see the world. From here on out, you should refer to this dude not as an "off-limits" guy, but the guy you're having an affair with.
Right? I can't think of any other reason why someone would be "off-limits." Unless he's, like, cursed? A werewolf? A criminal mastermind? He's a meat eater and you're a vegetarian? You're Sarah Palin and he's Al Gore?
Rendevouz are exciting. If they weren't, no one would plan them. But self-destruction is seductive.
Being bad feels good, but sometimes being good feels bad. In both situations, however, the feeling is fleeting. Better to listen to your gut, politely say "sorry, something came up," and disappear for a while than end up doing something you can't undo.
Amen. Don't do it! It will qualify as a cringe-worthy moment that will bug you for the rest of your life, and it's easily preventable by walking away.
Say "This is wrong, we can't do this." and leave. Don't let him stop you, no matter what.
is he your brother?....boyfriend's brother?....boyfriend's dad?....is it john devore?
ha, yes it's john devore. this is his way of telling me it's never going to happen.
It seems like if someone were off-limits, he would probably know he was off-limits, so you wouldn't really look like a fool telling him you can't go out. Unless he's off limits because your best friend is in love with him and he doesn't know it. Then just say you want to, but you can't. He'll probably get it.
its one thing to do something with a man when he doesnt let you know hes already commited cause hes a pig, but when a woman knows hes off limits because hes committed already (im assuming thats what off limits means) just really pisses me off. think of that poor woman...and if theyre having a bad relationship tell him to LEAVE then he can get some.
trust your gut & dont go :)
Sometimes the hardest things in life are when our hearts are saying "go" while our heads are saying "no." You already know what the right thing is. Do it.
i'm in the exact same situation. he has a girlfriend but we kinda click, we figured maybe we should do something casual, it hasnt gone that far yet but i so want to. My head says 'no-what the hell are you doing'', but my heart says "come on girl, have some fun" i'm so confused!!
Yep. That's me (and he's my ex). But I've found that saying no is one of the most empowering things you can do. At least it was for me. Bitting the bullet will do wonders for your self-respect.
Confused? Obviously! If he wanted you, he wouldn't still be with her. Smarten up ladies.