Man, I remember the first time I got chicken pox. It was my birthday, and my family took me to my favorite Japanese hibachi restaurant where the cooks flip the food in the air. (I was seven or eight at the time.) My mom noticed some red marks on my forehead, and I mentioned that I wasn't feeling so well. My aunt, or maybe a cousin, I don't remember, said it looked like chicken pox. We had to leave the party early. It was awful. I was sick for like two weeks. Though I did get a He-Man action figure and some coloring books, so...
And acne, that was the worst! During grades 8th through 10th, my face regularly resembled a pepperoni pizza. You could play connect-the-dots on my face. I tried everything-- medications, lotions, that face wash Jessica Simpson claims to use on TV. I even snuck some of my mom's cover-up a few times. (What? I was a theater nerd. We wore make-up all the time.)
My point is, everybody has acne, and everybody (hopefully) gets chicken pox at least once in their life. Neither are that big of a deal. They seem like the end of the world at the time. You get one pimple, and suddenly you feel like no one will ever love you and you should just wear a white mask to cover the scarred half of your face, and live in the tunnels of Paris underneath an opera house playing your "music of the night" on a giant fancy organ like some sort of "phantom" of the opera. (Like I said, theater nerd. Also, how did The Phantom get that organ down there? That always bothered me. And where did his boat come from? Seems like someone would have noticed the elaborate ferry system he had going on underneath the opera house.)
The guy kissed you because he thinks you're hot, fun, and awesome. Acne isn't going to change anything. He will breakout at some point. Or maybe he'll cut himself shaving. Will a few pimples stop you from kissing him? As you said, he wasn't hesitant to kiss you. Most guys don't care. If we want to kiss you, there is very little that's going to stop us. Acne is never a dealbreaker.
Take care of your face and it will clear up. In the meantime, if wearing cover-up makes you feel better, go for it. The most important thing is to be confident (and be yourself) around the guy. So if you don't normally wear much make-up, don't go crazy and cover your face with it. Do what you normally do, and be confident. Unless he's a massive tool, he's not going to care. Also, the guys who would dump you over a little acne are always the ones whose faces most resemble volcanic craters.
And acne, that was the worst! During grades 8th through 10th, my face regularly resembled a pepperoni pizza. You could play connect-the-dots on my face. I tried everything-- medications, lotions, that face wash Jessica Simpson claims to use on TV. I even snuck some of my mom's cover-up a few times. (What? I was a theater nerd. We wore make-up all the time.)
My point is, everybody has acne, and everybody (hopefully) gets chicken pox at least once in their life. Neither are that big of a deal. They seem like the end of the world at the time. You get one pimple, and suddenly you feel like no one will ever love you and you should just wear a white mask to cover the scarred half of your face, and live in the tunnels of Paris underneath an opera house playing your "music of the night" on a giant fancy organ like some sort of "phantom" of the opera. (Like I said, theater nerd. Also, how did The Phantom get that organ down there? That always bothered me. And where did his boat come from? Seems like someone would have noticed the elaborate ferry system he had going on underneath the opera house.)
The guy kissed you because he thinks you're hot, fun, and awesome. Acne isn't going to change anything. He will breakout at some point. Or maybe he'll cut himself shaving. Will a few pimples stop you from kissing him? As you said, he wasn't hesitant to kiss you. Most guys don't care. If we want to kiss you, there is very little that's going to stop us. Acne is never a dealbreaker.
Take care of your face and it will clear up. In the meantime, if wearing cover-up makes you feel better, go for it. The most important thing is to be confident (and be yourself) around the guy. So if you don't normally wear much make-up, don't go crazy and cover your face with it. Do what you normally do, and be confident. Unless he's a massive tool, he's not going to care. Also, the guys who would dump you over a little acne are always the ones whose faces most resemble volcanic craters.
Like he said, everybody used to get acne, so it's not that horrible. I used to have moderate acne but now it's clearing up because I use birth control. However, I still get acne on my back and chest. Since swimsuit season is coming up, do guys care if a girl has scars all over her back?
A good friend of mine has some pretty bad acne scars on her cheeks... and she is, quite honestly, one of the hottest women I know. Guys are always hitting on her when she goes out. Hell, a high school student of mine has one arm... gets a lot of positive attention from the guys.
Bottom line, I think it's all about confidence. If you wear your skin without shame or apology, people are far too impressed by who you are to care about trivial body issues. And, if they are, they are overcompensating for SOMETHING...
I got chicken pox when I was about a year old. I don't remember anything about it, but I do have a couple of scars from it, which are pretty noticable. Most of the time, I don't even think about it unless someone asks about them. We all have something about us we don't like (a scar, a mole, an extra toe, etc) and life's too short to worry about it.
This may seem offbeat, but it seems to me that a guy wouldn't ask you out to begin with if your acne and chicken pox scars bothered him. He'd just ask out the Victoria Secret model look-alike if that was the case. But he asked YOU, which makes me think that this stuff bugs you a lot more than it bugs him. It's all right! Smile and kiss him back.
Well, just to be the person you can all despise.... I've not dated a guy because he had the most horrible achne.
I mean, that's not the only reason, and I'm sure if I met the perfect guy for me, achne wouldn't put me off. But it just kills the physical attraction for me, and you need that in a relationship.
Scars or a few spots are fine tho.
I have to say i can really relate to this problem. I had acne from the age of 13/14 right up until...now! I took the pill, some other homone pills and a face wash and now nothing! I can FEEL the confidence growing!
It makes me very happy that Nick says that guys don't care...but i feel the NICE guys and the guys who REALLY are interested in you don't...but I have many many guy friends, who I hand around with often, and I have to say...i'll ask them which girls they like in the bar and to be honest, they are just as superficial as guys think girls are! They will say things like "she's too chubby! Her ass is weird! She has too many spots! Too much make-up" etc etc etc.
I think, a girl who has spots, or is a big over weight etc won't get the sort of action she probably should have, by this i mean, guys in general, will go for the tall, skinny, pretty chick rather than the averagely pretty girl if they mean these two in a bar.
That said, most guys I believe in the long run don't care that much!
Even the pretty shallow guys will be happy if a girl is willing to talk to them. And honestly, the majority of 'tall skinny pretty' chicks I've met just aren't interesting people. I'll go for the one who can make me laugh and is enjoyable to be around.
Long point short: Image is nothing. Thirst is everything. Obey your thirst.
I agree don't get me wrong, but let's be honest, when a guy first scans the room for a girl, he's definitely NOT going to be choosing the slightly chubby, spotty woman in the corner next to the tall, skinny, un-spotty girl.
I'm just trying to be realistic.
Of course after if you talk and get to know the person, someone with more depth has more of a chance (depending on what you're looking for).
Just think about it from your own point of view....has acne on a guy ever been a deal-breaker for YOU? I know it never has been for me. I've dated a couple of guys (one in particular) with pretty awful acne. Did I notice? Yeah. Did I let it ruin anything? No. I got over it and even stopped noticing after a while.
As for your own acne, try birth control if you can afford it. It seriously worked wonders for me!
Also, Nick, a MILLION props for the Phopera reference. I'm obsessed with that musical. :)
I'm the one who asked the question. Thank you Nick and everyone for your comments. I've never been the type to not date someone due to acne but a friend of mine in school made me paranoid. She was dating this very sweet guy and she broke up with him due to his acne. The sad part is she had acne too. I asked her why that would bother her enough to break up with him and she just shrugged saying it just did. I've always been self-concious about it especially with the addition of the scars. I also don't normally get beyond a first date, simply due to no connection with a guy, so normally the kiss doesn't come up.
I was happy he wanted to kiss me I was just surprised he actually wanted to. I'll probably still wear the make-up for a bit, since I feel more comfortable on dates with it on, but it's good to know most guys are uncaring about it. I'll have to comtemplate the birth control. I'm not sexually active so I saw no need for it, but maybe it would be worth it just to clear up my skin. Oh and Nick a few things. I'm also a theater nerd. I still enjoy pretty much anything involving the theater. I also love Phantom of the Opera so I cracked up when you used it as an example. A pretty accurate one too. As for the organ. He did have access to the theater he was "haunting" so maybe he stole it. I wouldn't be surprised if the boat wasn't a prop. Just a thought.
I'm so immature, but I couldn't help it. I giggled at, "Also, how did The Phantom get that organ down there?"
Back on topic, I very quickly realized that my boyfriend could hardly tell the difference between when I was wearing makeup and when I wasn't, so I only wear some light makeup on special occasions. Guys seem to notice things like makeup less than girls think they do...
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