Dude - you got gold right there. Women go for the troubled, moody sort.
OK, pulling your leg, slightly. Your answer is in your question.
Don't go out looking for love, idiot. Go out 'cause you want to go out. Sure, sitting alone in whatever place you hang your hat and call home is depressing. Being alone is depressing. I wrote on another question that solitary is the cruelest punishment ever devised.
Women can smell failure. It makes them hiss and scratch at you. If you are out, having fun and pretty happy with yourself on the other hand, they get intrigued. Start sniffing around you to make sure you ain't gay or taken or both.
So stop brooding, get yerself out there and have fun.
Got it?
I like that you used "idiot" as a term of endearment.
I know someone how uses "genius" as a term of derision.
Focusing on love makes you depressed? Who you been with, man?
Maybe focusing on love makes him think about how he's alone and that depresses him?
It should NEVER make you depressed. It should give you the warm fuzzies just thinking about getting the warm fuzzies for someone. It’s all about perception I guess…
No...
I feel that way too and I'm a girl... over analyzing the relationship, always thinking "im not good enough - someone better will show up in their life and they will leave me - I bet they would cheat on me first chance they get, blah blah blah", all that paranoid depressive crap, I hate it and struggle everyday...my only motivation is knowing guys sure don't like depressed crying blubbering girls
Enjoy being single! Why does everyone believe the stereotype that you can't be happy unless you have someone on your arm?? Do what you like to do, enjoy life, and guess what. You'll find that you ARE happy and look attractive to the other sex. As a bonus, you'll probably meet someone that enjoys doing things you like to do, easy setup for a date.