Go on another coffee date and ask him if he has a girlfriend. Not in an arms-crossed, accusatory way, but in the way two friends ask each other about their lives. And then go from there. Maybe he's just looking for a friend -- it's possible. Yes, most dudes are consciously or subconsciously poon vultures. And yes, every single one of us has pictured you (YES, YOU) naked.

But he could just be looking for a friend. It's possible.

I don't trust gossip. It's a lesson we all should have learned playing that kindergarten game "telephone." You know the game -- somebody whispers a sentence to someone else, and this is repeated down a line of kids. Then the last kid reveals the sentence, and it's always hilariously mangled. "The sky is blue" becomes "Bobby is a fart breath."

Perhaps your friends don't know the entire story, or only part of it. Maybe he's broken up with her. Or this "girlfriend" could just be someone he's "seeing." He could NOT have a girlfriend. Who knows. The two of you seem like you can talk to each other, which is a precious thing to find. Keep talking. Ask him if he has a girlfriend. If he says "yes," ask about her. I'll but down a stack of internet dollar that he's in the death throes of a relationship and is reaching out. When I've been in that position, I've found talking to a new friend about anything BUT my dying relationship can be a welcome respite.

You'll be able to figure out from there whether he's on the prowl or not. Don't forget, at least, to enjoy your coffee.