i just dropped the guy i have been seeing for the past seven years and it really bothers me that he doesnt get why i wont talk to him anymore. He didn't want to put in the effort towards the relationship, and he drinks too much, among a list of things wrong. how do i get through to him that i cant be with him anymore?
Dan Seitz answered this question on
September 18, 2012 6:00 AM
Easy, don't talk to him.
Look, he's not going to get it. Obviously the guy's got some problems with his life that he needs to work out, and you've decided you can't stick around to deal with that. This is fairly normal, but he's not going to see the problem.
If you have to, get a no-contact order, but pure and simple, you're doing the right thing by walking away.
To get through to him you're gonna have to be a little mean. Don't answer his calls or texts. Don't initiate contact with him. Avoid places where he will be. Just disappear from his life. Block him on Facebook. He will get the picture eventually. If you need it, there is a phone app called Mister Number that will block calls and text messages for you, so you don't even have to see them.