Nope. It happened after you two were broken up. Even though it's his best friend, it's still none of your ex's business. You were a single woman when it happened and free to kiss anyone you want. If he finds out later from his friend and confronts you about it, remind him of this and tell him that it's really not his concern.
If you two were trying to get back together as a couple, I might feel differently, but since you're only seeking friendship, the kiss is irrelevant to him. Do you tell your other friends every time you kiss a guy? No. Also, if he's going through a hard time right now, the last thing he needs to hear is that you mugged with his best buddy. He's fragile, and it's not the time to divulge such a thing, even if you wanted to.
You are not obligated to tell him. If you want to tell him, that's different--you have to follow your gut if it keeps insisting that you spill the beans. But I think it's neither necessary nor a good idea.
Thanks for the question.
So I'm in a similar situation. I broke up with my ex about 2 1/2 years ago. About 6 months after the break up, I made out with one of our mutual friends. (My ex pretty much hated this guy so idk why this guy thought he was one of my ex's best friends.) Well anyway, my ex and I recently started talking again and hanging out as friends. I will never feel the need to tell him, because as The Wise-Ass says, I was single at the time and free to kiss whoever I wanted. The only thing I will say, is that all the guys I know are a little possessive. When my ex got the idea that this guy was trying to get me, he pretty much flipped. Apparently that's not ok in his book. I'm sure its different for other guys, but I say, you don't have to say anything about this because you're just going to be friends. I hope it works out!
I would add..., if he asks you about it, do NOT lie. Cary is right, “…it's really not his concern.” You were not a couple at the time.
Good point, Silky. Don't lie--it will make you look guilty of something, and you're not.
My ex slept with one of my friends when we were taking a break from the relationship. I found out about it years later, and it hurt like hell. I'd say be honest, but only because it sucks the hairy pair to be the one who finds out last.
I think that's the real issue, isn't it? Feeling that 'everyone' knew about the 'during break' shennanigans except you. It's natural to think you're a fool for not knowing until waaay after the fact, but I think that's a personal pride issue, not a "You lied to me!!!" trust issue. Still, people who feel no shame about their actions rarely lie about them. I think Cary makes the important distinction between omitting such a dalliance while talking to an ex as a friend, and doing so with someone you're trying to get back with. In the latter case I agree that it's usually better coming from you than them hearing it through the grapevine.
Thanks for the input everyone, I've decided to let it be the past. Were I a) trying to get back with the ex or b) if it had gone any farther physically or emotionally, I would have told him, but as it stands, it's not his problem.
But I don't lie to him, that was and always has been my policy.
I need help with my relationship. its quite similar. After 2 days of mine and my exes break up, I started talking to his BEST friend, and i told the friend i KINDA liked him but i wouldn't date him because of (named reasons), which included that i am not over my ex. well the best friend told my ex and my ex now said he will NEVER go out with me again because it's happened before and he knows we wont work out, but i want to get him back, how can i? I Really like this guy and he liked me too, we were together for a long time and i forgave him for his mistakes but he wont forgive me for this one. What do i do? People tell me to just let go, but i cant.
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