First of all, you should tell him that your shoes don't have visible plastic boobies. While the shoes/action figure comparison is fair, you also wear your shoes out in public. Ask him if he'd be willing to carry his barely clothed cartoon statue around while grocery shopping, and see if he keeps using that analogy. And not to sell out my fellow toy-collecting nerds here, but I do not get the whole removable clothing feature at all. You have a girlfriend now, dude. Maybe it's time to eBay the big-breasted Japanese anime statues and scantily clad Lara Croft figures.
I've been known to buy the occasional action figure (though I draw the line at statues, scantily clad or otherwise) to display on my desk, so I can't really tell you to make him box them all up and put them in the attic. But I do think you can let him know that the pervy ones make you uncomfortable, particularly when company comes over.
Clearly he's okay with displaying his collection of absurdly proportioned dolls for all the world to see, but he should still take your feelings into account. If he wants to have two cabinets full of toys, fine. You fell for his geekiness, and if that includes some action figures locked away in cabinets (and not, say, on the dining room table), that's just part of the package. But he in turn should realize that nekkid lady statues aren't exactly your thing, and perhaps keep those away from prying eyes. At the very least, he should move them to a private office or desk--somewhere that isn't common space. (And I sincerely hope he doesn't have any naughty action figures or statues in the bedroom. I can't think of a bigger turn-off during sex than having to stare at doe-eyed anime characters.)
I would never tell someone to give up their interests (nerdy or otherwise) for a relationship, but there comes a time when you have to consider how those interests make the person in your life feel. It's great that you're supportive of his action figure habit (and not insisting that he toss them out in order to make room for your shoes), but telling him that the more degrading toys make you uncomfortable is perfectly reasonable. It's important for him to be occasionally reminded that he's no longer a dateless 13-year-old whose only female contact comes in plastic form.
I've been known to buy the occasional action figure (though I draw the line at statues, scantily clad or otherwise) to display on my desk, so I can't really tell you to make him box them all up and put them in the attic. But I do think you can let him know that the pervy ones make you uncomfortable, particularly when company comes over.
Clearly he's okay with displaying his collection of absurdly proportioned dolls for all the world to see, but he should still take your feelings into account. If he wants to have two cabinets full of toys, fine. You fell for his geekiness, and if that includes some action figures locked away in cabinets (and not, say, on the dining room table), that's just part of the package. But he in turn should realize that nekkid lady statues aren't exactly your thing, and perhaps keep those away from prying eyes. At the very least, he should move them to a private office or desk--somewhere that isn't common space. (And I sincerely hope he doesn't have any naughty action figures or statues in the bedroom. I can't think of a bigger turn-off during sex than having to stare at doe-eyed anime characters.)
I would never tell someone to give up their interests (nerdy or otherwise) for a relationship, but there comes a time when you have to consider how those interests make the person in your life feel. It's great that you're supportive of his action figure habit (and not insisting that he toss them out in order to make room for your shoes), but telling him that the more degrading toys make you uncomfortable is perfectly reasonable. It's important for him to be occasionally reminded that he's no longer a dateless 13-year-old whose only female contact comes in plastic form.
I'm a girl who has been working at a comic book store for over two years, and we get all types. There is one guy that comes in all the time that special orders Kotobukiya toys from us. Whenever we get them in we do the basic 3-point figure check (since most toys come in a clear display): The front (body), the top (cleavage) and the underside (panties). I'm a nerd myself. I've got posters of beefcake superheros in my room and I collect toys as well. My boyfriend has his superheroine crushes, which I'm totally fine with, but there is a line that's drawn - I'm not okay with pornographic dolls. It's one thing if it's a nude statue for art's sake (there are some pretty and tasteful ones out there) but still, there's a line. If you are not okay with it, tell him. I don't think you find your shoes nearly as sexual as he finds his statues. I really have to agree to Nick on this one. He has you now, and that should be enough to say goodbye to the creepy anime fetish toys.
Is this girl dating my brother?
Hey, if you're reading this, are you dating a guy named Ryan? I'll totally throw away the naked Japanese figures if you promise not to leave him! Please? PLEASE!?!