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I met this guy through friends at my church. I could tell he was interested. I found him on facebook through my friends pages, should I add him? Or would he think that's creepy?

Sure, why not? I doubt he would think that's creepy. I wouldn't if I were in his shoes. It's not like you're proposing to him; it's just Facebook. All you're saying is that you want to be friends.

He will still probably assume that you are interested in him. If you're okay with that, I say do it. I always tell people to go after what they want, and that's what you're doing. Good for you. Every relationship started with someone making the first move, however small a move it is.

I hope it leads to something good for you, even if it's just a new friendship.

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Thanks! I was kind of hoping he'd be forward and message me but he didn't. So we'll see how it goes

silkysly

Humm…, I don’t think it’s a good idea if you’re looking for a relationship. I hate it when a guy I’m dating friends me on FB. I feel like, they want to move to fast or want to keep an eye on me. That’s my friends & family on there, not guys I date. I would throw the creepy card at it…. sorry.

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I'm not sure why you consider becoming Facebook friends "moving too fast". This is 2011. Becoming FB friends with someone you've gotten to know well is kind of a given. I don't know anyone who refuses to friend people they date. Since when has it been the norm to hear people say, "Holy crap, she's friends with her boyfriend on Facebook. That's creepy"? If a guy I'm dating refused to be FB friends with me, I'd be suspicious, not to mention very insulted.

(If you and your guy started out as friends and started dating much later, then what would you do? Remove him?)

To the question-asker, it's not creepy. He might see it as forward if you've only met once. My rule is that I have to have seen someone in person at least three times before I friend them.

But if you're really that sure that he's interested in you, why not? Then again, I imagine if that's the case then he might send YOU a friend request.

Cary McNeal

They aren't dating. Not yet, anyway.

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