Ask him who he likes best: Vin Diesel, Mr. T, or Zach Galafianakis.
Nah, just kidding. You know what? Don't ask him. Just groom it the way you like it. Every guy likes it different, so you can spend your entire life trying to style for each guy's taste. Besides, it's your bush, not his; no matter how much he gets to see it, you have to wear the thing every day.
I know that going bald is popular right now, but I've also heard that hair is making a comeback. Bald is very polarizing, and guys who dislike it do so with a passion, usually with veiled accusations of pedophilia against those who prefer it. It also itches like hell when growing back in, I'm told, so once you start down the waxing path, it's hard to stop.
The other extreme, the MTB (monster truck bush), also stirs strong feelings both ways. Many guys find pubic hair repulsive. Since you seem to fall somewhere in the middle, you should be fine. Chances are, he won't care, and if he does, he'll say so.
That doesn't mean you have to groom for him, though. If you want to, fine, but don't feel compelled. Again, it's your body, so wear it the way you want. He shouldn't expect you to do anything he's not willing to do for you in return.
Quid pro quo, Clarice.
The first tag cracked me up! Well done.
Whatever you chose to do miss, make sure that you've got some experience with how you groom before you have sex. You dont want to shave the night before and then have red, unhappy razor bumps when you want to have sex... see what I'm saying? So if you do want to shave down there start shaving now so you know what its like in terms of look and upkeep. The more comfortable with how your body is before you have sex, especially the first time, the more comfortbale you'll be, so make any changes to your grooming habits at least a couple of days before.
I'm hoping you dont need anyone to tell you this, but I hope you've considered investing in a kind of birth control besides condoms, ie the pill, shot, etc. I went on the pill before havign sex, just cause condoms just seem kind of well, flimsy. I felt much more comfortable knowing that whatever happened with it I was covered for pregnancy. Also, have your boyfriend get tested for you, just to make sure. The more you can do so that your concerns about pregnancy and STDs are minimized, the calmer you are before sex, and the better the sex will be. Enjoy yourself and be safe!
If he's got a problem with how you naturally are, then he's an idiot.
Shaving and plucking and waxing and all that extra stuff should be something to make you feel more beautiful. MORE beautiful. It shouldn't be something you do to cover up something you feel bad about because you've been told by too many idiots that it's not normal.
My advice to the asker is not to do anything to yourself down there though. If you never shave or anything, it does stay soft, and if you don't have the inclination (which you don't seem to) then you shouldn't do something so personal just for someone else, who probably wouldn't return the "favour". ;)
I shaved for a long time after my guy suggested it (he shaves too.) Trying it was his suggestion but keeping it was mine. I find it utterly erotic. But I will say this, shaving is a pain in the butt, particularly for a coarse-haired lady like myself. It turns stubbly and itchy within a day or two. I learned how to deal with it, and I'm learning how to wax (OW.) Point of clarification, waxing makes a huge difference with the itch factor. Stubble is minimal and hair grows back sparse. My recommendation? yeah, try it. But not for your first time. First times are for exploring, loving, and trusting each other, not fussing over yourself. Have fun! Relax! Use protection!