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I might sound like a psychotic, jealous gf but I don't like it when my bf has tickle wars with other girls he knows. It's not so much the tickling as WHERE he tickles. The mid to high thigh areas are a no-no for me but I know that he and I are from different sides of the spectrum with physical openness. What do I do?

You aren't psycho-- he's a douche. He shouldn't be having tickle fights with anyone but his girlfriend. (I can't believe I just wrote that.) It's way too flirty, and a really inappropriate thing to be doing when he has a girlfriend.

He's using these so-called "tickle wars" as a way to touch and flirt with other girls. This isn't normal boyfriend behavior: he's blatantly flirting with other girls in front of you. Call him on it. Tell him that you do not want your boyfriend going around tickling random girls. It isn't a matter of proximity-- he shouldn't he tickling them in the first place. How old is this guy? Unless he's eight, this is really inappropriate behavior.

Seriously, this guy sounds pretty lame. I bet he's a hugger too. He's probably always giving his female friends long, lingering hugs around you, right? Does he offer them backrubs? Touching other girls in a playful, flirty way when he's in a relationship is disrespectful. Period.

Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. Put your foot down! Do not let him "tickle attack" other girls. It's time for a "tickle treaty" to end the "tickle wars." Too many good men and women have laughed themselves to death. It's time to end the tickle violence. (And also to dump this loser.)  
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I agree, this guy ounds lame. I would dump and move on to the next.

lindsay

the only time in my life friends did tickling was in high school, and back then i remember the boys would always insist that was just how they played around. now we make jokes about 'tickle foreplay' because that is exactly why they did it- the juvenile first move they hope leads to more without them having to risk looking stupid if it doesn't. your boyfriend is definitely aiming for more with those girls, and in a really pathetic way to boot.

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DUMP THE GUY. What a rude asshole. The moment his hand touches another girl and in a flirty manner, its a BYEBYE. What kinda creep tickles a grown person also? WEIRDO.

Caitlin

All right, I am just gonna throw another point out there. While I have never had a tickle fight with a guy that I didn't want to get down and dirty with, I am a VERY physical person. I was hardly aware of it for a long time and, even now, only realize I am being touchy feeling until... well, after I already am ;)

I am talking about touching a gal/guy's shoulder, maybe leg if they say something funny... now, I have had guys tell me that this confused them for a minute, until they observed that I was touching everyone else, too! And, my boyfriend has never commented on it!! I think that's because, even though I can be physical with other people, I am much more so with him.

So, this guy might be a real creeper, but not EVERY physical gesture needs to be scrutinized.

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