Just because you can do something, doesn't mean you must do it.
Look, sex is a way to have fun with and be closer to your partner. If a particular position or act makes you uncomfortable, then don't bloody do it! You got rights too, you know.
If you really need an "out" for not doing it, well gal on top usually gets much deeper penetration than side or missionary or doggy or chair. Tell him he is too big for it to be comfortable for you.
You honestly think any guy is going to be upset at being thought of as too big?
LOL I would be since I know damn well that's a lie...
I'm probably the only man in the entire USA willing to admit on the internet he is NOT big,
Yes, but that's not your real name...
The use of a pseudonym doesn't change my physical proportions...
Plus, there is a difference between not being big in general and being too big for a specific person.
I used to LOVE girl on top. It's been a while since my last relationship and I've put on a lot of weight. I'd like to start dating again, but the idea of being on top again horrifies me. I'm afraid that the guy would look up, see lots of fat, and be turned off (of both sex and a relationship with me). It's a shame, because I adore the feeling of the position, but hate the way I'd look doing it.
As a plus sized woman dating a "statistically average" endowed male (I couldn't use the too big line) try being on top while he's sitting up- like on the couch. It keeps things.....well...for lack of a better term IN better. Even better, on a chair where your feet can reach the floor and you can use your legs as leverage. That way, you are eye to eye as well- and it's more intimate.
Also keep in mind that men know you're big when they ask you out. They like you already. We think our clothes hide our size, but they really don't... Plus, any man already in bed with you is so excited to be there he is not staring at your love handles in the moment of passion. He's probably scared you can feel his hairy back worried about the faces HE is making HAHA! ; )
I think your answer is a lot more helpful than MM..as usual
zencomic - i love your answer. i have the same insecurity as the , and am happy to hear of alternatives that would keep my boo happy and protect my insecurity.
zencomic - i love your answer. i have the same insecurity as the , and am happy to hear of alternatives that would keep my boo happy and protect my insecurity.