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I need to know how to give a good BJ...can you help?

Don't worry, this is one of the least difficult sexual acts you'll ever perform.

Pretty much anything you do with your mouth feels good. There are tons of nerves down there, and also the excitement of getting a blowjob. So if you're feeling timid, don't worry: he likes anything you're doing. Even if you just treat it like a popsicle, he's going to love it.

Beyond that, use your tongue and explore. The head of the penis in particular is pretty sensitive, but feel free to wander all over. He'll let you know what's really turning him on. A good technique is to move your hand up and down the shaft slowly while using your mouth on the head. Oh, and don't forget the balls: they're just as sensitive.

There is just one thing you should tell him before you get down to it: that he needs to let you steer. He shouldn't do anything like put his hand behind your head, thrust his hips forward, etc. because the gag reflex does not like being toyed with.

Finally, there's the aftermath. If this is the main event, you can let him finish in your mouth or not: it's up to your comfort level. Either way, though, semen has a tendency to get everywhere and it can fly a surprising distance. Just something to keep in mind.

How about it, readers? What advice do you have re: oral pleasure?

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You forgot 'no teeth'

GalRetort

Not uh! No ball grabbing or playing is suggested from me! Some guys are TOO sensitive about that. Even when I try to smooth my way to the pair, my BF still doesn't like it... he flinches and jumps a mile everytime I touch them. Who knows.

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I've read that a lot of guys say that girls don't apply enough pressure with their mouths. I think it generally goes the harder they are the more pressure you can apply.

Oh and make sure you have enough saliva. If your mouth goes dry and it probably will it's a good idea to keep a glass of water close by. Take a drink, it helps to re-moisture your mouth.

chrissie1101

sucking is the easiest way to get around that one. (omg i really hope my baptist mother does not read this column lol)

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I just lick like its a ice cream cone. Lick lick lick. Use warming lube and move your hands tightly up and down. Moan!!! Get really into it. I sometimes pretend I'm a porn star and its being filmed. Even if you don't like doing it act like you are. If you're gona do it give it 100 %.
I Just can't have him finish in my mouth. I just gag and gag. Its nasty! Its all warm and salty and goopy. Bllaahhh. But when he's cuming in tissue I take a ball in my mouth and suck or hum. Drives like crazy.

silkysly

You should open it up to the guys for their help too.... :o)

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Let them finish it off in your mouth and then lick up the left overs mmmm yumm yumm! well that's what I do with my bf anyways

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Let him finish off in your mouth then lick up the leftovers! that's what I do with my bf !

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Actually the first thing I always suggest to my friends is to ask! Every man is different and what works for one does not necessarily work for all. Therefore just ask your intended what he enjoys most, and enjoy yourself while doing so, that is important as well. Beyond that just relax and realize we all start out with the same level of experience, which is none!

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yeah you can't go wrong with licking but some guys have really sensitive balls. so like some light teeth and other will go soft with teeth so its always good to ask!

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Advice is my personal experience. Take what works and ditch the rest.

1. Before you even begin, let him know you like feedback. You want to know what works and what doesn't. Some men are afraid you will stop if they tell you you may be doing something painful or uncomfortable.

2. The you-can-never-suck-too-hard advice is BAD. Start with light pressure and suction, pick it up as his reaction allows.

3. The best way to increase the amount of saliva is to take in as much of your penis as you can for a few strokes. The head of his penis hitting the back of your throat triggers the glands to ramp up spit production. You'll have enough to coat his entire package, allowing you to easily stroke his penis while you concentrate on ball work (which is great if your mouth needs a quick break).

4. Tell him how much you adore his penis and there is nowhere you would rather be in the world than right there sucking it. And mean it.

5. Wear a skirt so you can touch yourself while sucking him...and if you are comfortable doing so, use your own lube to keep his penis slick. I rarely see or hear of women doing this, is a really hot thing to try that he is likely not to have had someone else try with him.

6. Open your mouth when he comes so he can watch himself come in your mouth. if you don't want to swallow, just let the ejaculate drip right back down over your fingers while you look him dead in the eye (if he is conscious).

Above all, follow only the advice that works for you personally. Because there is nothing sexier than being confident doing it and loving every minute of it.

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