Ouch! How do you know he's never had a girlfriend before? Has he told you, or are you just assuming that because he's a geek? This sounds like sour grapes since he wants to keep you in the friend zone.
Sounds like he's started to see someone. I don't know how more clear he could be. Why would he lie? If he's lying about his "girlfriend in Canada," or whatever, then he definitely just wants to be friends. But I would think that you guys are close enough that he wouldn't feel the need to make up a fictional girlfriend. Even if he's trying to spare your feelings, that's worse than telling you the truth.
But props for being bold and asking him out anyway. Now you know that he's taken. If you're cool with just meeting up to do geeky stuff together, then keep being his friend and see what happens. Telling you that he wants to "see how it pans out" says that maybe he isn't head over heels with this new girl, but he wants to see where it goes. Maybe something will happen with you guys in the future. For now, he's taken. Be content with being his nerd pal, and hope that his new lady doesn't get jealous of your nerd meet-ups and come along the next time you play laser tag or hit the comic book store.
Sounds like he's started to see someone. I don't know how more clear he could be. Why would he lie? If he's lying about his "girlfriend in Canada," or whatever, then he definitely just wants to be friends. But I would think that you guys are close enough that he wouldn't feel the need to make up a fictional girlfriend. Even if he's trying to spare your feelings, that's worse than telling you the truth.
But props for being bold and asking him out anyway. Now you know that he's taken. If you're cool with just meeting up to do geeky stuff together, then keep being his friend and see what happens. Telling you that he wants to "see how it pans out" says that maybe he isn't head over heels with this new girl, but he wants to see where it goes. Maybe something will happen with you guys in the future. For now, he's taken. Be content with being his nerd pal, and hope that his new lady doesn't get jealous of your nerd meet-ups and come along the next time you play laser tag or hit the comic book store.
No sour grapes, just comments that led me to believe he has never had a girlfriend. I don't pry but I just let him talk as he feels comfortable. Yes, I am content just being his nerdy pal because he is a lot of fun and I consider him a very good friend. His response just surprises me after those comments and I wanted to know if it was maybe a guys way of avoiding saying 'sorry sweetie, you aren't my type'. I'm true geek and guys are usually intimidated once they get to know me.
I can say with near 100% certainty that he is NOT saying you are not his type.
See my other post for my most likely scenario, but I think if anything his "let's see how it pans out" is an escape clause. His way of putting it out there that you ARE his type and he may be rethinking his other choice.
Seriously lady, move on. This means he knew you and THEN started dating someone - you're not his first choice. Why would you do that to yourself? You deserve someone who is crazy about you too, don't settle for anything less!
Disagree STRONGLY!
Way to much assumption with this post.
She very well could have been his first choice by a long shot, but he was too intimidated by a girl so strongly like the "perfect" girl. Especially since he said "let's see how it pans out". To me could very well been his way of trying to do the honorable thing now that he realized that he may very well have made a huge mistake in getting together with the other girl!
Guys are constantly wondering how there actions will be perceived by girls, especially ones we have any interest in. I could definitely see his internal dialog being something like:
"Oh CRAP! She just asked me out, but I just got together with {other girl}. Why didn't I just ask her out? I'm an idiot. This whole time I thought she was just interested in being friends and really she liked me, too! Oh no. What do I do? I can't just dump {other girl}, that would look really bad, but I don't want her to think I'm totally not interested. Uh, uh, uh...."
then he delivers above line.
Granted, the opposite could be true, but don't just ASSUME he's not into her. It could be either way, but I'm personally leaning towards my assumption. :)
I agree with the statement above. Why would you wanna date someone who'd put you on the back burner? :) U deserve to be number 1!