I really like one of my roommates but I didn't want to risk things getting weird in the apartment so I never said anything.In a month i'm leaving the country for a year and have started to think I will regret not telling him how I really feel. Should I keep my feelings to myself or just tell him?
Mystery Man answered this question on
June 16, 2010 11:30 AM
What are you crazy? Tell him! If you don't you may regret not doing so for the rest of your life. Seriously! Since you are leaving there is zero chance of things getting weird in the apartment anymore--smart move on your part, by the way.
While he may not have reciprocal feelings at least you can say you gave it a shot.
There's a quote I heard once, but can't for the life of me remember where it's from. Something to the tune of 'I'd rather regret something I've done than something I didn't do.' The things I never did when I had the chance haunt me more than anything I've done in the heat of the moment.
Do it. Make something happen and revel in the consequences because how will you ever know what might have been unless you do? Life is too short to live the other way.
Have to agree with Mannon here. Once, I let a guy know how I felt about him before I was sure how he felt. It wound up not working out, but I have no regrets, even though he turned out to be an asshole.
Eh I'm in the other camp! Since he lives with you, he probably knows how you feel... and if he felt the same way he'd say/do somthing right? (assuming he posesses balls, and who wants guys who don't?) Plus, if you're going away for a year then whats the point? But whatever, thats me- eternally logical and not very "romantic-gesture"-ly minded... I'd say there's a 98% chance that if you live with him and like him that he knows... and if something didnt' cook up then take that clue, but whatever. The chances are slim and to me, bad odds, but if its a loss you're willing to take then go for it.
Take it from someone who has walked this road a thousand times - JUST DO IT! Life is way too short to only wish you had...
Oh please, what's the point at this stage? You were too scared to genuinely go for it properly, so what's going to happen now? You could have a month of steamy love and then have to leave, or he'll reject you and you'll be crushed.
Some things are better, infinitely better, in the imagination.
“We crucify ourselves between two thieves: regret for yesterday and fear of tomorrow.”
Fulton Oursler
I say this in my head when I'm afraid of taking a leap or feel like I maybe shouldn't have taken the leap.
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