Forget him. It's his loss. Who rules out an entire ethnicity? Oh, right, racists. He's racist, or, at the very least, overly picky. He's judging you on your racial background before getting to know you. This is what small-minded, boring people do. You're better off without him.
He's in for a sad, lonely life if he doesn't outgrow his prejudices. It's a shame, because you guys might have a lot in common. You're a human being first, and an Asian girl second. He's missing out on getting to know a great person, and that is super sad. I've dated Asian women, Hispanic women, Greek women, African-American women, and they've all affected my life and introduced me to new things. Love should be color blind. (Wow. That was cheesy.)
If I just blanketly decided that I don't like, say. Turkish women, I would be closing myself off to some very awesome and attractive women. I could be ruling out the future love of my life and would die alone, never knowing the love of a good Turkish woman.
There are plenty of nice guys out there. When you meet the right one, race won't be an issue. Life is too short to worry about the douches, racists, and haters.
Actually, I guess I am prejudiced against racists and haters. Oh, haters. Why do you gotta hate? Kanye and Jay-Z have a message for you.
He's in for a sad, lonely life if he doesn't outgrow his prejudices. It's a shame, because you guys might have a lot in common. You're a human being first, and an Asian girl second. He's missing out on getting to know a great person, and that is super sad. I've dated Asian women, Hispanic women, Greek women, African-American women, and they've all affected my life and introduced me to new things. Love should be color blind. (Wow. That was cheesy.)
If I just blanketly decided that I don't like, say. Turkish women, I would be closing myself off to some very awesome and attractive women. I could be ruling out the future love of my life and would die alone, never knowing the love of a good Turkish woman.
There are plenty of nice guys out there. When you meet the right one, race won't be an issue. Life is too short to worry about the douches, racists, and haters.
Actually, I guess I am prejudiced against racists and haters. Oh, haters. Why do you gotta hate? Kanye and Jay-Z have a message for you.
YOu know being an Asian girl, theres not a lot of men who will turn you down. Even those who have never dated, or thought of dating one, will like the idea if he wraps his mind around it. Im not boasting too! Ive seen guys who date a certain ethnicity for years and settled with an asian girl, and then discriminated other girls of other ethnicity. NOw thats a loser. Love is color blind, race does not matter. Its the click and personality that brings two individuals together, not skin color or race (should anways).
On a side note, why are men so easy for an asian girl? I find that too manhy men tend to like the idea of being with an asian girl. Its creeping out. When i sees my ethnicity before ME, i have a problem with that. Bastards.
Nerd alert: I think it's to do with the legacy of WWII. It seems that there was this sort of cultural narrative about asians being emasculated (that's why asian girls appear 'hyperfeminine') in general, and the 'tough' white guy having to step in and 'save' the poor asians. I'm not exactly sure *how* this came about, but I know this was sort of enforced by the position of many (white) american male soldiers in Asia fighting against Japan. Then when they got to Japan, there was that weird relationship set up right in the aftermath of WWII, and I believe the japanese women specificially marketed a sort of 'asian' image -- exploiting this 'hyperfeminine, demure' image -- to them -- not all the jap women of course, but those who made good money out of... catering to the desires of the soldiers.
Somehow it's got passed down and remains till today.
I am pretty sure there are journal articles and books on this -- a history course I took covered it very briefly, but it was years ago and I can't remember the thing.
I think I might even blame Vietnam more for that one. Well, not Vietnam as much as Full Metal Jacket. After all, who can resist a hot lady who will only turn you down if your dick is "too big"?
Me love you long time, indeed.
Who told you that he doesn't like Asian girls? Was it him? Or was it someone else? Sure, he could very well be a douche who limits himself to one kind of person. But it's also possible that your source is misinformed. See if you can get it from the horse's mouth, so to speak. That's the thing about gossip: sometimes it's true and sometimes it's not.
If it is true and he is that much of an asshat, leave a dead rat outside his front door and see how he likes that! (J/K girl; don't do that!)
Just to play devil's advocate, I'm gonna say that supposing he doesn't fancy asians, that doesn't make him a douche or racist. Sometimes you're just not attracted to a certain look.
I have a chinese guy friend who has told me he isn't attracted to chinese girls. It's definitely not racist, he just has a weird inbuilt preference for girls with a different facial structure or whatever. It doesn't stop him having many chinese female friends (like me!) but all his girlfriends have been caucasian.
You can't have a relationship without attraction.
Of course, if he actually doesn't like asian girls in the old-fashioned sense, then yeah, he's a prick.
I don't consider his deal as being racist at all. I'm Native American and 98% of my ex's, hook ups, one night stands, etc... are Native Americans.
It's not that I don't "like" other races persay, but I prefer my own race (survival instincts maybe). I wouldn't totally discount any other race that's for damn sure, but I prefer Native's.
Case in point, I have dated an Asain and a white guy. And they were pretty awesome guys. But yeah like I said maybe it's a survival thing encoded in us.
I think in your case it's just preferring your own culture's ideals. There are a lot of Native Americans where I live. The ones who prefer their rez also admit that it's kind of a fishbowl life. On the other hand, the ones who leave also say that its something of a culture shock, even in our seemingly laid-back metro area. It's all about familiarity and comfort levels.
I have friends and acquaintances of just about every skin color imaginable, but you have to have something in common with people you date. Some people like their SO's to have similar life experiences; for that, you probably have to be part of the same ethnic group. However, others view their other half's different life experiences to be interesting because they're so different. I, personally, wouldn't rule anyone out just because their ethnic background is different than mine, but I will agree that it makes it harder to meet halfway in a romantic relationship because of the cultural differences.
A similar analogy might be dating someone whose parents were happily married for fifty years, whereas yours had a bitter divorce when you were 8. The bf whose parents are also divorced would understand you a little better, but the bf with happily married parents would show you another, different, view of life.
Yeah I really do get where you are coming from.
I've lived on and off the rez and it can be a culture shock. But it has broadened my horizons like you wouldn't believe. But yeah at the end of the day I believe it is easier to transition into a mans Native lifestyle as opposed to a I don't know Jewish lifestyle. I wouldn't know how to act, what to say, etc. But with Natives it's generally the same ideals. Even if it's the Navajo's, Nez Perce's, Sioux, Yakama's, etc... Generally speaking they have the same ideals, values, upbringing so it is easier to adapt. hhmm...venture out of my comfort zone maybe I wouldn't be single...NOW THERE IS A THOUGHT! HA!
im sorry....but i'm not attracted to black guys at all....yet a lot of my friends are black....I dont consider myself racist....
you cant help who you feel attracted to...for me itd be the same as being with a girl...
so why is he racist for not dating Asians? maybe he doest find them attractive? (i find Asian girls absolutely beautiful...but hey to each their own)
When people have type, it usually boils down to what kind of person they're looking for. I don't generally like smelly, dreadlocked hippies, nor do I like tattooed longhaired bikers, or skinny aloof hipsters. Their physical characteristics are indicative of attitudes and lifestyles that I don't relate to, and don't care to. I'm reacting to the identities that they wear on their sleeves.
The reason that it's racist to exclude an entire racial group as "not your type" is that it assumes that all those people have just as much in common as all bikers or hippies. Essentially, you're making an entire ethnic group into one person, and that is the very definition of racism. Racism isn't about hate (although that's the biggest and worst part)- it's really about how we categorize human being into these arbitrary groups, and use these generalizations to identify them. Suddenly, Sam from accounting isn't Sam, he's Black. And all black people are the same.
There are beautiful Asian women and fugly Asian women. There are kind black men and douchey black men. To discount street thugs along with bankers, doctors, artists, and charity workers in one fell swoop because they're all black means that you are defining people by the colour of their skin as opposed to who they are.
And that's racist.
I have had the unique experience of resembling many different ehtnic groups. Many people, upon first meeting me, think I am Asian (almond eyes), but when I am tan and in a tropical setting some have thought I was Hawaiian, in Jewish communities (when I'm not tan) some think I am Jewish, but many have said I look Italian. I am American born, Hispanic with American Indian with some German blood in the family (my brother cannot tan - always gets red only, and he got the green eyes). Other than feeling a little like a chameleon, I've enjoyed people guessing what I am and I would be proud to be a part of any of the other ethnic groups. I have also enjoyed knowing guys who were real about getting to know me on the inside. Anyone who doesn't appreciate you, well, that's their problem.
Men are not easy for any specific race girl. I only go for women I find attractive. In general, they are always a small subset of whatever racial background to which they belong. If I was constantly approached by women, you would get the impression that I hated everyone equally.
Go to him and say "Me love you long time!". He will change his tune.
Practically all of my friends are Asian and I don't find Asians in general to be attractive, but that doesn't mean I'm ruling them out. A lot of it has to do with personality of course. We all have different tastes and we all go through phases of races too.