I recently found out my boyfriend has 2 Facebook pages one where im on and one Im not. On his other page is flooded with pictures of him and his ex. Should I confront him about this he says he wants to keep us quiet for now which has been almost a year but has introduced me to his family and friends. Is he cheating?
Dan Seitz answered this question on
September 14, 2012 12:45 PM
Yes, he is cheating. Either that or he is really, really not over his ex.
You do need to confront him about the two Facebook pages. He's lying to somebody, even if it's only himself, and it needs to stop. It's that simple. Find out what's going on, and if he doesn't want to deal, then you need to walk away.
Is he cheating?…, You really have to ask?
Maybe the other facebook with him and his ex is an old page that he doesn't use anymore? Once I googled my boyfriend to find his linkedin page only to find his myspace page from like 2005 complete with (much analysed) photos of him and his ex and (heavily scrutinised) comments from her - it was quite creepy and equally entertaining actually.
After I told him about my discovery he was quite rightfully embarrassed and removed it including the profile photo of her snogging the face of his earlobe - which forever will be etched in memory/haunt me in my nightmares - THANKS BOYFRIEND. Anywayturned out that... no he wasn't dating his ex on the side..... no he didn't keep it to pine for her lost love and .....no he was definitely not using it as a virtual shrine for some weirdly misplaced sexual pleasure - he had just forgot it was there. He actually said she had set it up for him in the first place and he had to contact myspace to get the username/password etc resent/reset.
I don't think you should assume he's cheating right away - although it does look fishy. Speak to him about it and eitherway he should remove the one with all the ex girlfriend memorabilia. If he is honest and he respects your feelings then he will.
at the very least, he's cheating on facebook by violating its terms of use.
Anyhow, if he's still wanting to keep your relationship quiet after almost a year... you need to give him the silent treatment and disappear.
That's very true. You know, the asker of this question should report his site with his ex. That way when FB finds out, which they will (I know this from past experiences =X), they will take it down. And he will lose every picture he has with her that he uploaded. It's a guilt-free way to get a little bit of revenge, ;D.
I think what is really shady is the fact she says "he wants to keep us quiet" why would he want to do that? And the fact his ex is on the other page he still wants to keep is just disrespectful. I think he should delete that fb page. You should tell him to do so and if he refuses... Well then you'll know where you stand.
Actually my first thought was, his ex is not his ex but a current gf. Which would be why he wants her to "keep quiet". But either way, anytime a SO wants to keep things under wraps, I feel like it has bad news written all over it. Good luck to you!
So u all were right he and his ex are back try a get back together but he still wants me to he told me when I asked. Idk thanx for the advice