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I recently tried initiating sex with my husband only to be rejected. I feel humiliated and wonder if I should give up on that whole idea. I thought men liked women to initiate? Seriously, WTF??

It's like anything else: some people like it, some people don't. The real issue is how it made you feel.

If you feel that bad about it, you need to talk with him, pronto. First discuss your feelings, since it sounds like he turned you down pretty hard. That should take priority.

Then, ask him why he turned you down. Does he not like it? Was he not in the mood? Find out how he feels, and go from there.

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What he said.

Also, welcome to the world of men haha. My fiance rejects me half the time I try to initiate, it's a very common thing for men from what I have gathered. Just because we are men does not mean we will jump at the chance to get some, I have turned down women in the past (including my fiance) because I was tired or stressed or had a headache. Men can have headaches too, you know. As RP says, if it was a particularly harsh rejection then talk to him about it. If all he said was "No babe, I am just not up for it." then I wouldn't concern myself at all except to realize that he is human.

Good luck

kamakula

I always find these questions amusing given just how often women turn men down for sex and the one time it happens to them, clearly there is something afoot.

Britannia

Men are not sex machines. Sometimes, they really ARE too tired, or just plain not in the mood. They're just like women! Just like human beings! Who would've thunk?

Seriously, it's not something to become offended over. Try again some other time when he isn't distracted, stressed, or tired, and he will probably be thrilled that you're trying to put some spice into your relationship.

Tariana

Timing is usually the key. :)

silkysly

This is your husband & you only recently tried this? Am I missing something here? Seriously, WTF??

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Sucks when the shoe is on the other foot....welcome to a man's life.

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As a married woman, I recently had the same thing happen. I don't initiate sex that often (which BTW does NOT mean that I dont want to have sex), and I was rejected by my husband. It seems like everytime I DO initiate, he laughs at me (literally). He seems so shocked that I even asked. But, what I want to know is, how do you get over the feeling that he doesn't want you?

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