Nothing. If you have already apologized to him -- and I'm betting you have if you've been calling and texting -- then you've done enough.
He is punishing you for what you said to him in anger. He's got you on the hook and wants to keep you there for a while to teach you a lesson. Every time you call or text or e-mail him, you give him another opportunity to ignore you and make you wriggle on the hook. He's enjoying watching you grovel, and he might keep it up for a while if you keep taking the bait.
Maybe you think you need to grovel. Maybe you think you deserve to be punished. You don't. We all say things in anger that we regret later, but on the grand scale of mean things to say to people, "Just go away" is on the mild side, somewhere between "Whatever!" and "Stop being mean, Mr. Poopypants." I'm sure he was offended by what you said, but the punishment doesn't fit the crime. It's not like you were abusive.
If you apologized, that is enough. He needs to get over it. Until he does, just leave him alone. Let him enjoy his sulk-fest until he realizes that he's overreacting and you're not going to grovel anymore. Then he'll come knocking on your door again, I promise you.
If not, call me and I'll go give him something to be offended about, like my foot in his ass. Hopefully that won't make him jump off a bridge or something.
I had a girlfriend do the same thing to me. It was an LDR, and after a rather heated telephone discussion, in which I apologized profusely (yet again) for something I had said (not in anger), she decided to give me the silent treatment by not e-mailing me until I sent her something. I played her game.
Three weeks later, I broke the silence, sending her an e-mail that I would be in town, and would go by her house to pick up my stuff.
Is she dating a 15 year old? Or my ex husband? Regardless, that dude needs to chill out and grow up. Like I tell my 5 year old, "use your words." And if Mr. Poopypants (HA) comes knocking again, think twice about answering. Chances are, he'll never quit acting like a child.
The guy may have decided that just going away was a good idea. He may not come back. She broke it off, which means he avoided a big scene and doesn't have to feel guilty. It doesn't get any better than that.
Frank, I'll have you know I'm still bent out of shape about that.
Bat Leaper, there's a huge difference between having "avoided a big scene," and being courteous. If he wants out, just say so. Don't act like a child pouting about not getting dessert. I'm guessing you're single. And young.
Nah, Samsmama, you traded up.
I wish someone had said this to me a year ago. Good advice Cary more girls need to hear this!
Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody. I'd say if he won't accept your apology and forgive you, then it is his problem, not yours. Perhaps you would be better off without him. I'm not sure I'd want to be in a relationship with someone who isn't capable of forgiveness and can't get past it when someone makes a mistake anyway. You've done your part. You've apologized. Unfortunately, you can't make someone forgive you. That is his decision to make, and you can't force him to make it.
The same thing happened to me recently. I was begging him to answer my texts and calls but he wouldnt. But I got sick of it fast and just told him that I've said my apologies and have done my best to try and fix it. I told him that he could call me when he's ready and if not then il know that it's dunzo. He texted back after a few hours of sulking and said he was sorry for flipping out on me. Just give him time. He'll come around. If not, then at least you know early on that if all it took for you guys to break up was that then it's not worth it. I know how it's killing you but you've tried enough.
My first time quoting anyone on guyspeak, "If not, call me and I'll go give him something to be offended about, like my foot in his ass."
CLASSY. No sarcasm intended at all; that's an honest to goodness mother effing classy line. I applaud you, sir.
I agree with all else; don't feed the cookie monster anymore. He'll eventually get tired of eating vegetables. Then who's cookie jar do you think he'll come crawling back to? YOURS. Try not to sweat this too much--in fact, hit the gym in the meantime.
Thanks? Of course I was kidding.
Sort of.
Hmm, I disagree with Cary. If your "just go away" was as mild as it seems, then he might have just found his opportunity to quit the relationship - at your suggestion, and apparently at your expense. I think you gave him the out that he might have been looking for!
That is entirely possible, yes.
He sounds like an angsty mumbledouche (I've been wanting to use that one).
He who cares least...wins. Stop calling and texting.