Because it's been 20 years and he is a completely different person with a whole new life. He might have a wife and kids, or be super busy with work. Perhaps he wanted to write more, but had to close his Facebook tab once he saw his boss walk by.
Also, what else do you say to someone who you haven't seen in two decades? Using the popular acronym for "Oh my god!" in all caps and then asking how you've been since 1990 seems like a pretty reasonable response. There's so much to catch up on; anyone would be overwhelmed. The last time you saw this guy, TV viewers were wondering who killed Laura Palmer on Twin Peaks, while MC Hammer was telling us that "U Can't Touch This" on the radio. (Kids, if those references went over your head, that's because 1990 was a looonnnnng time ago.) The world was a completely different place. Think of all the things that have happened in your life since then. He probably doesn't know where to begin. A Facebook message couldn't possible catch you up properly.
Facebook creates so much unneeded drama. I used to obsess over why old high school pals weren't approving my friend requests. Then it dawned on me: we both lived 15 years without learning every little thing about each others' lives. The world churned on, and we drifted apart for a reason. Oh, sure, Facebook has been great for reconnecting with some old friends. But those were friends I would have reconnected with anyway had we, say, ran into each other in person at a reunion or whatever. As for the others, there's no guarantee that we would still be friends today just because we both liked to play Magic: The Gathering back in 1995. (As an aside, I will say that I have become friends in recent years with people that I barely spoke to in high school and college. You never know how people will turn out. Jerks turn out to be nice people with age, old grudges get buried, etc.)
So much time has passed since you guys knew each other. He might be a complete jerk now. Or, more likely, he might just be a busy person with a life just like you. Don't read too much into his response. Write him back and tell him how you're doing. If nothing else, curiosity will prompt him to respond. If you're meant to reconnect, great. If not, you'll always have MC Hammer.
Also, what else do you say to someone who you haven't seen in two decades? Using the popular acronym for "Oh my god!" in all caps and then asking how you've been since 1990 seems like a pretty reasonable response. There's so much to catch up on; anyone would be overwhelmed. The last time you saw this guy, TV viewers were wondering who killed Laura Palmer on Twin Peaks, while MC Hammer was telling us that "U Can't Touch This" on the radio. (Kids, if those references went over your head, that's because 1990 was a looonnnnng time ago.) The world was a completely different place. Think of all the things that have happened in your life since then. He probably doesn't know where to begin. A Facebook message couldn't possible catch you up properly.
Facebook creates so much unneeded drama. I used to obsess over why old high school pals weren't approving my friend requests. Then it dawned on me: we both lived 15 years without learning every little thing about each others' lives. The world churned on, and we drifted apart for a reason. Oh, sure, Facebook has been great for reconnecting with some old friends. But those were friends I would have reconnected with anyway had we, say, ran into each other in person at a reunion or whatever. As for the others, there's no guarantee that we would still be friends today just because we both liked to play Magic: The Gathering back in 1995. (As an aside, I will say that I have become friends in recent years with people that I barely spoke to in high school and college. You never know how people will turn out. Jerks turn out to be nice people with age, old grudges get buried, etc.)
So much time has passed since you guys knew each other. He might be a complete jerk now. Or, more likely, he might just be a busy person with a life just like you. Don't read too much into his response. Write him back and tell him how you're doing. If nothing else, curiosity will prompt him to respond. If you're meant to reconnect, great. If not, you'll always have MC Hammer.
Great answer!
"Facebook creates so much unneeded drama." Nuff' said.
Experiencing some of the same as her, but I SO agree w/Nick. B 4 FB, I sucked it up, & called on the phone old bf 95, he was hooking up w/wife #2, I pulled out. Ran in 2 him 10yrs later, we talked & talked, I was on the clock, had 2 end conversation :( FB we signed on as friends, then my bf took him off my list, 2 x's. I hid fb in FireFox, & leaving bf. I started contacted former bf a few mo. ago, a few times, 1 time a mo, then 1 x bi wkly, now up 2 1 time a wk., he always tells me, "There's nothing u can't tell me. So I have told him he was the person in my whoopie dreams, & 2 wks ago that I'm a phone actress. Same, once & a while he responds, usually not. But he works a lot, & says he's completely single, according 2 public records, seems 2 b. I don't know how 2 take things as well, the rate things r going one of us will b dead b 4 it gets physical :D