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I slept with this guy cause I really like him. He knows that I like him and he tells me he isn't ready for a relationship yet. How do I get him ready for one??

Stop having sex with him. Tell him you are only interested in a long-term relationship, which will include sex, of course. If that doesn't work, start dating other people to see if that ignites a serious eagerness on his part towards making your relationship official--if there are any jealous, i.e. 'relationship' feelings in his heart they will surface here.

If none of the above work, he's not interested in a relationship with you. But, you need not necessarily move on, you can still hook up, if only because hooking up is fun.

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how do i help a guy fall out of love with me, aside from not hanging out anymore, but still maintaining a friendship?

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Honestly, if you're not already in a relationship with someone else then give this guy a chance. I was in the same situation last year and now I'm engaged to that guy who wouldn't take no for an answer. He wasn't my type, not very good looking and kind of a dork. But I love him with all my heart. He treats me like gold and we have so much in common. But anyway honey, if you don't wanna try that then you have to get mean. I'm sure you have already told him how you felt and he's probably still not giving up. If that's the case then this guy has it bad! So either give him a chance or get mean. I hope my advice was helpful to you(:

Megan

Honesty usually works very well. And a meat cleaver.

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LOL....Wow I went through this for three months, if he doesn't realise it, he never will. And don't fool yourself into thinking that sleeping with him will equal a relationship , it doesn't. They only think with their dicks

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Just went through this for 3 months and broke up with the guy last night. Never slept with him but got incredibly close. I told him we couldn't unless he committed to a relationship. We were never gonna get there apparently, so......he was never gonna get some.

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Shannon

I tried this method before...stopped having sex with someone I had already had sex with b/c I wanted more. It worked, until he realized he was in a relationship and scared himself out of it!

Using this kind of manipulation (for lack of a better term) to attempt a commitment out of a man that may not necessarily be ready is a risky move I think, and can be painful if this happens to you too!

Sadly I am stuck with this man...he's the father of my child! So not only did he break my heart, but I get a constant reminder of the humiliation everytime he sees my daughter.

Megan

Take the vagina away. If they like the vagina very much, they will change their attitudes. If they can get good/better vagina elsewhere, then just move on and share your vagina with someone who will love it and only it.

Stella

Dont waste your time, as hurtful has it is, you did it all backwards. Already gave him the goods before you even established He liked you. Its hard to get a man to think of you as Girlfriend material after you've already given up sex without so much as a commitment talk. So, I'd stop giving him the goods because you will only end up fooling yourself and setting yourself up for failure. If after you stop getting physical, the guy might realize he does have feelings for you.

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