It does seem a little unreasonable though. I take birth control strictly because I HATE using condoms. I'd be pretty unhappy if my boyfriend still made us use them...in my opinion birth control isn't the healthiest thing for a woman, so if she is willing to take it and he knows she's clean, I don't see a reason for him to be so stubborn. However, OP if it doesn't bother you, then great...if it does, you should probably make that clear to him.

Some blokes get so anxious about this sort of thing it doesn't feel enough to them if they haven't got it on, so the experience is kinda ruined by the worry. Part of good sex is feeling ultimately safe and secure after all! Maybe to him that involves wearing a condom when not strictly necessary.

Maybe, he's protecting You.

Really? I mean I have my tubes tied, been with my guy for years and have a ring in my finger. We are both STD-free.
For him, nothing is ever certain. He doesn't want to be a dad. That means making sure that he follows his rights before some one-in-a-million anomaly changes that.
He doesn't get a say (final say, legal say) about what you do with your body if you got pregnant. I am not saying he should either...just that he should get to be as safe as he desires. That is his right.

I know of married couples that never have unsafe sex either as they believe that is the only way to be safe. *shrug* It works for them.

You can still get pregnant when you're on birth control. Kudos to him for being responsible. http://www.justmommies.com/articles/pregnant-birth-control-pills.shtml

Yeah but...over a year? Yes, you can get pregnant on birth control but the chances are extremely small especially if you take it religiously like you said. I personally don't take birth control because of my migraines and the increased blood clot risk, even though many doctors say that it may not be related, there are a lot of unwanted side effects of the pill that I have already suffered and don't want to again. That being said, most of my hangups were about the fear of getting pregnant, and after 7 years there hasn't been a hiccup. But the fear itself is what was causing issues in my relationship, and it wasn't until after I got professional help that I was able to look at the risk/reward relationship of sex rationally. Maybe your boyfriend is too afraid of the worst case scenario that it affects his everyday behaviour. There is nothing wrong with being careful, but If there is more going on, maybe talk to your boyfriend about it.

Hey guys I'm having the opposite problem! We're super careful, on birth control, he pulls out. But I just feel like I can truly enjoy the intmacy when we're using a condom. He's never complained about having to do it. Then suddenly it comes up tonight and he said he feels like there must be a part of me that doesn't trust him entirely and that that kind of hurts. I tried to explain to him that this was my personal decision for myself and for my body and it just escalated to this huge arguement. now he's hurt that i don't trust him. and i'm hurt and feel like my convictions are being attacked. He said it's like he has no say over it. Am I wrong to think : no you don't have the final say cause it's my body. I tried to explain to him that I feel terrible that he feels hurt and not trusted but that I stlll believe in my decision and it seems this tiny conversation turned into this huge thing and has now created a huge drift between us. Am I wrong here?

ooh and i mean truly enjoy the intimacy when we're using a condom becuase i can relax and not be so worried.

Or maybe it just helps him last longer.

Typical woman. Things are going too well so she's got to try to turn something meaningless into a dramafest.