Am I the only one that doesn't appreciate Mystery Man's answers? Maybe your name should be changed to The Douchebag since there are lots of douchebags out there and you seem to be one of them. If you don't want to answer a question or can't even answer it in a humorous way, don't answer them.

Wow, someone is a bit cranky, and sensitive. Remember that mystery man is giving his advice without a hug. If you can't take honesty then look to someone who is going to coddle you and make you feel warm and fuzzy with lies and BS.

I happen to think that this latest post by Mystery Man is exactly right. Why stay with someone you aren't happy with. It's not healthy for anyone in this relationship. The kid will know that mommy and daddy aren't in love, and that's way worse than coming from a broken family in my opinion. Why stay in a loveless marriage. Doing so sets everyone in that family up for a lifetime of misery. Most people will end up having an affair, Maybe not the pill popping, but sucking down several glasses of wine a night could come into play. Having an affair is inevitable if you fall out of love. You'll search for things you need in others, and there are plenty of people out there willing to overlook a little thing like marriage these days.

MM, you're welcome. I really think it would be more fitting. "Mystery Man" gives an air of well, mystery. But there's no mystery in giving sarcastic answers that make the person asking the question feel bad about themselves and makes you look like an annoyed respondent.

Peggy, I never said his advice was wrong. But I've read a lot of his answers and they're never as comprehensive, funny, or helpful as the other guys. So, change the name. Mystery Man just doesn't cut it.

As a child of divorce, I think you have to do what's best for the kid. And if that means separating, that is okay. You can try to make it work, but if you hate your husband and are miserable, your child's going to notice and it will manifest in an unhappy household.

Divorce is never easy, but a child can be raised by two loving parents in separate households. (Or one loving parent in my case.) "Staying together for the kids" is rarely the best option.

Good luck to you, and I hope everything works out.

Oh, why has the douchebag gotten such a bad rap? It's there to clean or help heal. Why villify this noble bag of douchery?

I say we end this affrontery to the noble Douchebag! When you see a boy scout help an old lady cross the street, yell, "Way to go, Douchebag!" When your best friend helps you through a hard break up, thank them with a "You are by the far, the Douchiest of all my friends".

God bless you Douchebags of the world!

And to ye men of Guyspeak, you all deserve the title of Douchebag, and for that I salute you!

Marriage counseling is always an option before you choose to go through such a long winded, sometimes spiteful, and costly arrangement like divorce.

The woman clearly married her husband for some reason in the first place. If she truly cares for either of their well-being, she would agree to or initiate the idea of going to marriage counseling.

If the counseling doesn't work, then settle the divorce peacefully, for the sake of their kid.

I don't really see how MM did anything but present three options.

If that makes the advice-seeker feel bad then they deserve it.

You go to counseling and you discuss why it's not working, and talk about ways that it could because that's the right thing to do for the life you two created together.

This crap about "growing apart" is way too convenient. EVERYONE changes over time, regardless of how easy or hard life has been for all the parties involved. You don't just tap out on your responsibilities because things become difficult or because people change (both of which, in ANY marriage, are inevitabilities). Rather than give up entirely, try to find a solution.

Sounds from your post like you haven't spoken to your husband about this at all, and we've gotten very few details except that you claim to not like him right now. Maybe he doesn't know. Maybe he's not happy either and wants to work it out but feels that resentment rising off of you like steam and is afraid to talk to you about it.

My parents went through the same thing, and stuck together for me and my siblings. It was the worst mistake they ever made. I have a hard time believing men can love anyone or anything. I know my siblings have serious relationship issues also. I love my parents to death, but a small part of me still begrudges them for the horrible decision they made to stay together. I appreciate MM's answer, and I hope the woman who submitted this will take his opinion into consideration.

I think Mystery Man said the right thing, it's her decision and he gave her the options. In my opinion, marriage counselling isn't really an option if you've gone so far as being unable to 'barely fake liking him'. My parents hated each other and it was the happiest day of my childhood when they announced their divorce, it was so nice to get away from such negativity.

Actually, I think Mystery Man gives some of the best and most genuine advice.

Oh com on!!! Stick it out until your kids are freakin grown. Wait until they're on their way to college. My mom never let us know she was unhappy until after we graduated college and they're still married but don't live together (she seriously has good reasons to hate my dad ex: cheating/lying/threats etc) Think of the kids first. I know every family is different and this may not work for you, but don't rush a divorce because you "think" you hate your husband. If your so called hate is something petty than maybe you weren't grown up enough to handle marriage in the first place.

change is possible for all of us , no effort and u lost b4 u even tried..if its a lost cause you have to realy talk to ur kids and explain it all. but for me momm & dadd is very important for the mental well being of kids .give the husband a final chance to make changes or do something that will provide the relationship some form of satisfaction.

change is possible for all of us , no effort and u lost b4 u even tried..if its a lost cause you have to realy talk to ur kids and explain it all. but for me momm & dadd is very important for the mental well being of kids .give the husband a final chance to make changes or do something that will provide the relationship some form of satisfaction.

I'd leave sooner rather than later OR take actions to make your marriage work. Go to counseling. Just letting it fester isn't healthy for you or your family.

Get counseling for yourself as you go through the divorce. Your child will adapt to the changes. It will be hard on everyone, so be easy and forgiving. the courts try to make you feel guilty for filing but it is just propaganda. Get a good lawyer, and move out sooner than later. You happy is the best thing for your child. You miserable will only be the example for unhealthy relationships for their future. You are their model.

I am laughing so hard! I vote option #3 just for entertainment purposes only... KIDDING! LMAO! High five MM!

Here you are looking for moral justification to leave your husband. Why not be honest with yourself. Let him keep the kid and you go your self-centered merry way.

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