It's not a bad idea, but there are two things you'll need to be aware of:
1) You really need to let the guys you're dating know that you're seeing multiple guys, and not sleeping with any of them. That's really only fair, to you and to them.
2) You'd better be a whiz at scheduling.
The one thing about dating multiple people that nobody talks about? The timing. You'll be planning your weekends out heavily in advance. So keep that in mind.
RP, I'm in a similar situation. What do you do if you just started casually dating someone (like have gone on 2 or 3 dates) and somebody cool who you just met asks you out? (Met new guy at a new years party, really hit it off, texted me later to go out this weekend).
While I feel guilty that neither one really knows about the other, I don't think going out with both of them would necessarily being doing anything wrong. I haven't discussed exclusivity with either one so far and things have gotten a little physical but I'm not sleeping with anyone.
Should I only go out with one person at a time and then when I'm positive that it's not going to work out with him, move on to the next person? That could take forever. If I'm still trying to figure out who I like/want to be with more, does that make it okay? Unfortunately, a 4 year relationship has severely limited my dating experience. Please advise.
I've done this before and I just find it stressful. Like RP said, you need to schedule things way in advance, and it's kind of tough to tell people you are dating around as well. Since I'm a bit of a coward, I won't usually tell the guys that I am dating multiple people. BUT, I usually only go on a few dates before I decide that I like one better than the other and break it off with the other one.
I disagree on the need to tell your other dates. I think it only becomes necessary after you've gotten past 3 dates and you're still not moving forward with one person or if you ane sleeping with any, then they all need to know that you're seeing others as well.
Gosh I agree. Guys do this alllll the time. I think it's great this girl wants to try to and meet as many guys as possible. Because you know that's what's on their mind!!
I think I agree with kamakula on this one. I tried casual dating way back in the day, just kissing, no sleeping together, but every time I made it clear on the first date that I was playing the field at first until I found someone I wanted a relationship with, it drove the guy nuts. A few guys got jealous & mean about it and they were really fun to dump. But seriously, assuming you're meeting new people, you don't know them at all, why would you commit to a stranger? I never understood that. There is a point where everyone needs to know what's happening and a lot of guys SUCK at getting that across to women. Sex doesn't equal committment to a man but it usually does to a woman so I don't see anything wrong with going on a few dates with different men at the same time. I think it's normal & healthy as long as nobody gets hurt.
Nothing wrong with dating multiple people at one time... but I agree that it is only fair to let everybody involved know where things stand. If it were you, wouldnt you prefer to know up front that a new guy was seeing somebody else too.
You dont have to be too specific or give out names and such, but just be up front and let the guys know that while you enjoy getting to know them and spend some time with them you just arent ready to be exclusive just yet and want them to understand that.
If you feel like you have to hide it then you are doing something wrong (just my opinion but I have always felt that if you are not comfortable telling the person you are with what you are doing then you probably shouldnt be doing it)
*jealous* I can't even get one guy to ask me out/date me let alone several. Lol good for you! If this is your dilemma than I want one of those..
I think it's just fine... There are no expectation that anyone dates just one person unless there is an agreement not to see other people. This is especially true on the first couple of dates.
as long as the guys are OK with the idea and have also fun on that casual date, I think it`s OK. But make sure beforehand that`s really works!
What a BS answer. Why should a girl reveal she's dating multiple people when guys seldom do? It's DATING! So sick of the double standards.
I for one absolutely dislike women who date multiple men, especially when they keep it a secret from you. I was recently seeing someone who was four-timing me, and it seems that she has a history of doing it in the past. It just disgusts me.