You shot him down. He was a beautiful eagle of love, and you unloaded an entire clip of bullets at him with your machine gun of rejection. He soared, burst into flames, and crashed into a mountain. Why would he talk to you?
Okay, so, it was a party. The two of you were probably drrrrrrrrnk. There's music playing and people laughing. Misunderstandings happen. But, look, even tipsy, I never throw myself at a chick just to make a fool out of her. You know who wastes valuable time trying to make fun of a woman at a party? Jocks in the movies. This dude was throwing himself at you. You didn't have to respond to his sloppy overtures with the same intensity. But you could have giggled and flirted back and hell, is he too gross to kiss? Is he one of those lipless guys who's all teeth and no gums? Did his breath smell like sardines left out in the summer sun? Would it have killed you to be young and reckless with your mouth?
He's not talking to you. His ego is wounded. If you're interested in this guy, then try to win him back a little. Nothing huge. Reboot the entire episode. Smile at him. Ask how he's doing. He probably doesn't trust you now, and why would you? You'd feel the same way if you turned on the charm and then fell on your face.
If you just want him as a friend, then, like, time heals all wounds. Which isn't really true. But maybe he'll forget that time at that party he was all up in your shizz and you weren't having it.
ouch. this is a pickle. how about apologizing? saying that you were dealing with a major issue and it was on your mind all night?
Or, here's a new one -- how about the TRUTH?
You tell him you thought he was playing you, so you didn't take him seriously, but that you actually ARE interested in him?
Just a thought...
Yes I am interested in him and there is a party coming up so I am not sure if I should "reboot the scene". I don't want to be a creeper and talk to him about it and drag it on.
AWW. thats soo sad. btw, ur socks smell good.
HELLO STRANGER. I REALLY THINK YOU SHOULD REBOOT THE SCENE AT THE PARTY. LAST PARTY WHEN YOU WERE SINGLE, AND THIS WENT ON THE GUY HAD GOOD TATICS. WHY DON'T WE FOLLOW THE SAME TATICS... ET CHMEMM.
love, skip
btw i think ur socks smell good
From the way this question is worded, I think the asker is young. This is just one more learning experience.
I pretty much stopped using the word "like" in referance to guys. I say that I'm either attracted to him or I'm not. To like him I'd have to get to know him as a person. I like plenty of the men I know, as human beings. Not as potential make out partners and then some.
But you know what, if a guy that I'm attracted to came up to me and said those things to me I'd shoot him down as well. But then I'm 25 and I have more experience with guys than I care to admit. If I'm attracted to him but I don't really know him and he said this to me, I'd walk out of there. That is WAY too forward for me. That would make me think that's all he wanted. If he were to come over and engage me in meaningful conversation and moved on from there, he'd have a shot at seeing me naked.
We're all different though. I'd say keep your wits about you. If you're as young as I think you are be wary of guys who talk like this. It's a slippery slope to fall down, full of broken heart shaped rocks.
I'm young. I'm inexperienced. But you know what the scene described here screams at me? Date rape. I know my perspective is different from most of our society, (I've decided to remain virgin til marriage), but this is just a red flag to me. I think she did the right thing.
I'm sorry, what?
I'm genuinly curious as to how you got to that conclusion..
I agree with Megan, I think this girl is young, perhaps even high school age. One thing to consider: just because a guy wants to make out with you (or even have sex) doesn't mean he has feelings for you. It just means at the moment, he's thinking with his gonads. You rejected him, whether it really was a kiss he was asking for or a thinly veiled proposition for sex. Hell hath no fury like a man scorned (or something he presumes to be scorn).
And JDV, I have had guys come on to me, just to have them laugh hysterically when I said yes. Some guys really are that mean. Or fail to mention that they just wanted me as a side dish. Or they just want to be f*buddies. Immature @*^(&)!
All bitterness aside, you have to do a bit of diving. Was he really just trying to tell you how you make his liver quiver? Or was he trying to get lucky? Could be a little of both, but if he's really that hurt, he could be sincere.