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I was dating a guy for 5 months, and it was going well. Then he suddenly breaks up with me, saying he just didn't have a "strong desire" to have long conversations with me or share his life with me. He says he only came to this conclusion a day before breaking up with me-could his feelings have changed so suddenly?

Hmmm...interesting question. Could his feelings have changed for you so suddenly? Maybe you're asking the wrong question.

Perhaps the better question is were his feelings ever as strong as you might have thought they were? My guess is no. He could have thought that you'd grow on him (which nearly NEVER works for men - though I have seen some men grow on women). I'm guessing that he's never really been in it to win it like Willie McGinest but wasn't upset that he was spending time with you and one day decided that he just didn't feel like dealing with you anymore.

In fact, I'm sure that's what happened. You can take that to the bank.

Just be glad he rolled out now instead of a year down the line. Imagine THAT flood of emotions when you're planning out your life and he blindsides with the "no strong desire to have long conversations" line. At least he's honest.

But yes he's a douche.

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It's been a year and a half for me... and he just said to me, "I really like you, think you're cool, great to hang out with, great sex, but there's a component missing to take it over the top for me."

I fell in love with him and didn't know it...

Ouch... Be glad it happened now...

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Very similar. I respect men like this rather than a guy who dragged me along for 2 and half years.

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I would have to say for those other two commenters who were with their guys for over a year, I would think he's cheating or something. There's no way you waste that much time with someone who you don't see yourself with. 5 months? yes. A year and a half or two? no way, in my opinion.

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It's gotta be another woman... nothing else turns a guys head away that quickly.

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